We all know about the “common factors” related to male sex problems which include diet and exercise. What you may not know of, are the hidden factors which cause embarrassing problems such as erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation and being unable to orgasm. These hidden factors are incredibly common, most often overlooked and unrelated to medical conditions or the common generalizations regarding diet and exercise.
1. The male not using lube
A dry entry is a difficult entry! When you’re already sensitive about whether or not your penis will work, not using lubrication is a recipe for disaster because you’re going to worry about a) if it’s going to stay hard while you put it in or b) if that rough entry is going to over stimulate you and make you ejaculate.
Lube allows for a smooth, effortless entry for you as well as a silky, sexy feeling for your partner. I recommend a good organic lube which doesn’t sting and is free of nasty chemicals.
2. The male not paying attention
I’ve said it many times – sex is like driving a car. A male cannot stay in control if he doesn’t know how to keep his mind on the job and pay attention so he can reach his preferred destination.
Think of it this way. If a male speeds up without paying attention, what’s going to happen? He may veer out of his lane, crash and make a big mess. Likewise, during sex. And what happens if a male is not paying attention and he slows down? You guessed it – he might lose his erection. This is not rocket science but is a leading cause of many male sex problems.
3: The male contemplating difficulties at work
This may seem obvious, but many males are guilty of it. Think for a moment of a pilot employed to fly a large commercial jet. As he is thinking about his upcoming work contract renewal, he punches in the auto pilot coordinates… and enters the wrong numbers. Where do you think the plane might end up??
The problem here, is that the conscious mind can only focus on one subject at a time. Now relating this to the sexual act, if a male enters the wrong coordinates during sex it can cause him to stall – or crash and burn… or lose the interest of his partner (and not necessarily in that order.) To put it simply, if a male’s mind is thinking about something else during sex, then it’s impossible for him to correctly coordinate the sexual programs in his brain.
4: The male worrying if his essential body parts are going to be up to speed
Being distracted in any way, shape or form during sex is a male’s greatest enemy. If a male is worried about whether or not his parts are going to be working properly to ignite (then complete) the sexual act with his partner, his attention won’t be focused in such a way that would guarantee his success!
5: The male worrying about completing the act too quickly
We’ve touched on this before. Let me give you another way of looking at it. Don’t think about a black car. What immediately comes to mind? If a male tries not to think about completing the act early, that’s the picture he’s holding in his mind – ejaculating early. Unfortunately this unwanted thought pattern can activate the ejaculation program in his brain, which can contribute to his fast demise during sex.
6: The male thinking about other adventures
This is unfortunately a common dilemma and frequently occurs when a male’s partner is not fully engaged in the sexual act with him. It also occurs when a male has an unrealized sexual fantasy which he wants to execute. This fantasy may or may not be related to his partner’s lack of interest and frequently consumes his thoughts throughout the sexual act. Which leads us to the next factor…
7: The male partner’s lack of interest in sex
We all hear jokes about how often males want sex, but the reality is that many males need sex like a fish needs water. Not only detrimental to a male’s sex life, a lack of sexual interest by a partner can threaten the very fabric which holds their relationship together.
If a male feels like his partner isn’t interested in participating in the sexual part of their relationship, it can set him up to experience a huge amount of performance anxiety in the few times that they invite any sexual activity with him. And if he’s feeling anxious during sex… then his intensity is on the wrong subject matter which may cause him to lose his erection or lose control – or not be able to orgasm.
8: The female contemplating her to-do list during sex
Another common yet frustrating problem, which can also prevent the female from achieving orgasm. Most males are surprised to learn that females have as much difficulty staying focused during sex as they do.
If the male sees a vacant look in his partner’s eyes during intercourse, then it may cause him to start worrying about their apparent lack of interest. This can cause him to lose his momentum – and lose his erection or lose control and ejaculate early.
9: The male crashing and burning after a sugar high
To maintain sexual health and fitness, you’re told to “eat healthy” however, healthy eating does not include ingesting copious amounts of sugar laden soft drinks, fruit juice or other sweet beverages. What goes up must come down – and a male really doesn’t want to crash and burn during sex with his partner.
If you want energy to complete a great round of sex, stick to non-sweetened beverages throughout the day, such as water or sparkling water with a wedge of lemon or lime.
Related: Top Foods to Enhance Sexual Function
10: The male not having the physical fitness to complete the job
This can also relate to the foods and beverages a male is consuming. Sex requires a huge amount of energy! If a male is physically unfit, then he may struggle at times to maintain an even rhythm which is fulfilling for his partner. A male who is unfit is also more likely to huff, puff and then collapse on his partner before either of them is feeling fulfilled.
One of the most common sexual positions favored by many couples makes it incredibly difficult for a male to maintain an even rhythm, stay in control – and actually complete the sexual act.
11: The male’s technique being ineffective
A man’s sexual technique encompasses so much more than his sexual positioning, it’s as much about how he engages and interacts with his partner throughout the entire sexual act.
Sex education doesn’t teach a male the exact procedure required to gain an erection and stay in control of ejaculation. Great sex starts between the ears! Usually when a male has sex for the first time, he just hopes that everything will work out like it does in the movies but this is frequently not the case.
12: The male’s lack of confidence in his prowess
If the male lacks in confidence sexually, then it may affect his ability to stay hard and/or in control of when he ejaculates. This is because he’s having too many thoughts about whether or not he’s going to get hard… whether his technique is fulfilling his partner… how long he’s going to stay hard… if he’s going to get too hard… whether or not his erection is going to make him blow early… or thoughts like: don’t ejaculate, don’t ejaculate, don’t ejaculate! Or, please stay hard! Please stay hard! Please stay hard!
There are a myriad of other thoughts which can make a male lose all control over the sexual act. If you’re a male experiencing sex problems experienced as early ejaculation, weak erections and being unable to orgasm, make sure you get checked out by a medical professional to ensure you don’t have any underlying medical conditions which may be contributing to your problem then get help to get your other head sorted.