It’s common for men who and women who suffer from orgasm problems, ED and PE to be confused by all the options available. When trying to end the problem it can be challenging to navigate between fact and fiction. For example, the ED and PE diet and exercise myth. What about ED and PE drugs? Or male and female hormone replacement therapy? Are they necessary and safe? Do they solve the problem or are they a temporary fix? Does sex therapy actually solve sexual dysfunctions?
Many men are excited about the possibility of being able to last longer so they can satisfy their partner in bed. Women are relieved at the thought of being able to feel turned on, stay turned on and easily achieve orgasm.
We’ve already seen that it’s a possibility.
You’ve heard of Nick’s story – from ejaculating within seconds of penetration to lasting around 40 minutes at a really good pace, which made his girlfriend really happy. And David’s story too – from having problems getting hard, then ejaculating early, to staying hard and in control as long as he and his girlfriend wanted him to, all within three weeks.
And Jean, who miraculously achieved her first orgasm at 76 years of age.
It’s possible! But it isn’t easy without the right knowledge and procedure.
In fact, when these men started out trying to solve their sex problems, they were completely overwhelmed. They searched on Google “how to last longer in bed” and they saw SO MANY OPTIONS. All of them seemed like a complete lifestyle change or something artificial which took away from the spontaneity of sex.
They all would go down the path of trying to figure out how to deal with their problem. They'd try something – and it wouldn’t really work so their enthusiasm would waver. They knew they had to take action, but would they ever be able to figure this out so sex could be spontaneous and fun?
Solving Sex Problems: The 3 Most Common Myths
I want to tell you more about the mistakes men and women make when they start out to solve these problems. Because there are SO many ways to go wrong when you start to figure out how to last longer so you can enjoy sex and satisfy your partner in bed. There are too many “experts” telling you what you want to hear, instead of what actually works.
Here are the 3 biggest myths that I see many people fall victim to – and I want to help you avoid them:
1. “I Can Take This Drug and My Problem Will Go Away” Myth
I’ve had reports from hundreds of men (who had visited men’s clinics, a urologist, and their doctor) that erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation drugs and medications don’t work. Or they initially worked, and then they appeared to stop working. Or that they were painful, or artificial, or that the side effects were horrendous and lasted for days.
And that as soon as they stopped using the medications, their problem returned in full – sometimes worse than before. On top of these issues, the generic “safe” brands can cost $15 every time you have sex!
They realized that drugs and medications didn’t solve the problem (and would NEVER solve the problem). Then they made a breakthrough and discovered a way to last longer so they could satisfy their partner in bed. A unique method that didn’t get short term results, but enabled them to have consistently great sex. More on that soon.
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2. The “Sex Therapy and Counselling” Myth
Surely a sex therapist would teach you what you need to know about lasting longer, right?
Wrong. Most sex therapists and counselors just deal with psychological factors which can affect your sex life. This includes work-related stress and anxiety, sexual performance anxiety, marital or relationship problems, depression, feelings of guilt and the effects of past sexual trauma.
While it was helpful to talk about these things, it didn’t teach them how to solve their sexual dysfunction problem. A sex therapist may also teach you about the sexual response cycle and the elements of sexual stimulation. Drugs are commonly recommended by sex therapists.
Other recommendations from sex therapy included: the squeeze technique, the stop-start technique, testosterone therapy, sprays or topical creams, Kegel exercises, penis devices, herbs, yoga, pelvic muscle exercises, sensate focus exercises, non-sexual touching techniques. As well as positively communicating your wants and desires, and learning to relax.
These therapists offered counseling, medications or techniques which only treated the symptoms. Which meant that you’re still left wondering if your actual problem’s going to get solved or not.
3. The “Diet and Exercise Will Help Me Last Longer” Myth
What about all those sites that say: “if you avoid these foods” or “if you eat these foods” or “exercise your penis” you’ll be able to last longer and satisfy your partner in bed? If so many people promise this, it has to be true, right?
Wrong. The truth is that MANY men eat well, exercise regularly (including Kegel exercises) and are in pretty good shape. They think their sex life should be going well but it isn’t. They’d start sex in the right frame of mind then a little nugget of doubt sneaks in and that thought can go in and out. Then it would snowball into a cascade of random thoughts including trying not to think about losing their erection or losing control.
Relevant exercises can improve the sexual experience for men and women. However, the underlying issues preventing full sexual function need to be addressed first.
These men figured there wasn’t anything physically wrong because they could sometimes masturbate or have sex with a partner without any problems. They knew it must be something else, but couldn’t figure it out. They all wanted to stop feeling tense and anxious during sex and were hopeful for an answer.
Forget the usual sex advice. This tells you, you need to exercise, take drugs or endure months of therapy to be able to enjoy sex, last longer and satisfy your partner in bed. It's not necessary! Instead, with just a few precise “tweaks” to your current procedure during foreplay and intercourse, you can take control of your body and achieve a consistently great sex life!
Your brain needs to receive relevant messages (signals) to be able to get hard, stay hard, control ejaculation and orgasm when you want to. While you can't change the way your brain responds to the messages you give it, you can change the messages that you are giving to your brain. This is why aligning your thoughts and actions is so important.
My unique Sex Mastery programs will help men and women who suffer from sex problems gain the skills and confidence to have a spontaneous, normal and happy sex life. So they can satisfy their partner in bed without it feeling like it’s doomed to failure!