The Importance of Taking Action Today
When things aren’t working in a relationship our mind has a tendency to imagine the worst case scenario and fill in the blanks in the communication. This especially happens on a sexual level. Growing up, we weren't given a manual to understand the order in which our sexual programs need to work and this applies to both sexes.
If you struggle to achieve orgasm, your partner may think it’s something they are doing wrong. It might be, or you simply may not know the sequence your brain requires to give you an orgasm.
Or if (he) suffers from another sex problem such as early ejaculation or losing erection hardness then chances are, you are both giving each other mixed messages… which all contribute to relationship stress.
If a man loses his erection while giving his partner foreplay, it’s common for his partner to think he’s either no longer attracted to (her) doesn’t love her – or is having an affair!
When a man with a premature or early ejaculation problem suddenly ceases movement during sex and desperately tries not to think about his penis, his partner is left wondering whether or not he is really into her… or whether or not he cares enough about her to get his problem sorted.
Men with sex problems tend not to talk about them because they feel humiliated and embarrassed and because they feel like they’re failing as a man. However, this ongoing lack of communication causes additional friction, tension and relationship stress. For men who are single, the fear of sexual failure holds them back from entering into new relationships.
No one likes to feel like they're failing. But if you don’t explain your problem to your partner and reassure them that you’re determined to sort it out so you can both be fulfilled in this important area of your lives… then you may devastate your partner’s ability to trust you, respect you and feel connected to you.
And this doesn’t just apply to sex. While it may be embarrassing to confide in your partner, it’s easier on both of you than pretending you don’t have a problem and hoping it will suddenly go away.
Making excuses or withdrawing from sex is just going to make it worse for both of you. Reassure your partner that you have found expert help and are totally committed to resolving the problem. Then make sure you work together to restore emotional as well as sexual satisfaction in your relationship.