How to Find the Best Sex Therapist

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Finding the best sex therapist to solve all your sex problems isn’t always an easy task. There are many professional sex therapists and other sex experts to choose from but not all of them have the answers you need, especially when it comes to solving sexual dysfunction problems such as weak erections, early ejaculation or a sexless marriage. You need to find sex therapy which specifically caters for your particular sex problem.

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Sex Therapy for Sexual Dysfunction Problems

Your sex problems may be related to one or more sexual dysfunctions. These can include premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, being unable to ejaculate or not being able to reach orgasm. Usually these functional issues are unrelated to other relationship issues and simply require specific adjustments to your sexual technique. Unresolved, these issues can all lead to a lack of desire for sex as both partners struggle to feel fulfilled sexually.

Doctors and urologists generally test for underlying medical issues then prescribe medications, devices or surgery. These can include numbing creams and antidepressants for premature ejaculation and erection enhancing drugs for erectile dysfunction. Drugs generally don't fix the problem, take away from the spontaneity of sex and often cause unwanted side-effects.

Unfortunately, many sex therapists also recommend these medications and other techniques which don't address the underlying issue. This is usually incorrect focus and wrong sexual technique which I can correct.

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Erectile dysfunction Therapy

Many sex therapists for couples will tell a man seeking help for erectile dysfunction to focus more on his partner. This often causes the problem to worsen! In my experience in helping hundreds of men overcome erectile dysfunction, wrong advice from sex therapists is the cause of ongoing sex problems for many couples.

Other sex therapists recommend Tantra as a therapy for erectile dysfunction and this has a similar effect. Too much focus on his partner, especially in a loving or spiritual way will cause him to lose his erection. This is because his brain isn't receiving enough arousing signals to maintain a strong erection.

As the brain controls the programs involved in sex, a man needs to know how to balance his sexual focus so his brain receives a constant stream of relevant arousal signals throughout the sexual act. He needs to accurately adjust his actions throughout foreplay (giving and receiving), penetration and intercourse so the right amount of sexually arousing signals reach his brain and it doesn't become overstimulated which would result in unwanted ejaculation. 

The most important six inches resides between a man's ears, and this is what he needs to be in control of.

Random thoughts, not applying the correct sexual technique and mental contamination all lead to erectile dysfunction issues which I can correct in my sex therapy treatment for men, women and couples.

Behavioral Therapy for Premature Ejaculation

Behavioral Therapy for Premature Ejaculation 

Most men who suffer from premature ejaculation are overly focused on his penis, how arousing his partner is, and how aroused he is feeling - or trying not to think these thoughts. This gives a constant stream of arousing signals to his brain. Without a relevant change of sexual focus, he becomes hyper aware of the sensations in his penis which quickly leads him to ejaculation. This is no fun for either partner.

Commonly recommended by most sex therapists, the start-stop and the squeeze method are distracting and ineffective at maintaining a satisfying connection during sex. Behavioural therapy for premature ejaculation must include directing the male how to correctly adjust his sexual focus before sex then during foreplay, penetration and intercourse to correctly balance his arousal levels. This advanced "how-to" knowledge restores his sexual confidence and provides satisfaction for his partner as his actions become inclusive of (her) instead of being primarily focused on himself.

There is a common recommendation among sex therapists to tell men with premature ejaculation that he can just give his partner amazing foreplay and that it will be enough to satisfy his partner sexually. This is often untrue, and demonstrates that the sex therapist doesn't know how to end the premature ejaculation problem and his or her style of sex therapy is ineffective. The right behavioural therapy will solve the early ejaculation problem and restore a man's ability to provide quality intercourse time for his partner, to enable a mutually happy and satisfying sex life.

While quality foreplay is an important aspect of preparing some men and women for sex, being able to stay hard and last long enough for the mutual satisfaction of both partners is imperative in maintaining a healthy relationship. A man needs to feel like he is able to fulfill his partner sexually to completely feel fulfilled as a man.

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Sex Therapy for a Sexless Marriage

A lack of libido in either partner is often due to ongoing sexual dysfunction problems and the resulting frustration and disappointment for the partner who fails to complete the sexual act. Premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction and being unable to achieve orgasm cause sex to be complicated and unfulfilling for all involved.

Many women assume her partner has lost interest when he loses his erection, or is being selfish when he ejaculates early, not knowing how fine a line it is for a man to balance his sexual focus to stay hard and in control. 

Low libido can also be caused by a partner’s unfulfilling sexual technique, or lack of emotional connection. Due to a lack of relevant sexual education (and irrelevant sexual imprinting) many people rely on porn for their sex education. This, unfortunately, provides an unrealistic education of how sex works!

For example, male porn stars often use hard and fast thrusts with a constant change of position. In real life, this kind of technique will eventually put many women off sex. If your sexual technique is not fulfilling your partner, then being busy with children's needs, ongoing work pressures and at a later date menopause, will become a woman's logical "reason" for not wanting sex.

Romance novels may have been an alternative to a porn education but they also don’t give a realistic portrayal of sex. Fairy tale descriptions of orgasm lead to problems recognising an orgasm. Many women question their ability to achieve an orgasm and constantly ask themselves: Is it? Is it? Is this an orgasm? This constant questioning confuses her brain, therefore orgasms don't complete (or less frequently than is desired.)

The best sex therapy which I provide, gives answers to solve the impending sex problems, recommended adjustments to put the "WOW" factor into your sexual technique and adjusting the behaviours inside and outside the bedroom to enhance your emotional and sexual connection.

The Best Sex Therapy for Couples

Your sex problems may be due to other imbalances in your relationship which cause your partner to lose interest. These can usually be easily resolved with effective strategies in place to overcome the emotional and sexual disconnection. Simple things like not cleaning up after yourself can all influence a partner's desire for sex.

With my relevant sex therapy for couples, men can re-engage their partner's interest and realize how to naturally last longer so they can satisfy their partner inside and outside the bedroom. With a fully functioning and happy male at their side, my unique insights then enable women to easily switch on her libido, eliminate vaginal dryness, and orgasm “on demand” during foreplay and intercourse. 

My best sex therapy for men, women and couples teaches the male and female aspects for individuals and partners to restore a happy, satisfying and fulfilling sex life for each other - for life. For males, how to become the best version of yourself and for females, how to be the woman who inspires him to be.

My  breakthrough sex therapy is available in the form of prerecorded Sex Mastery programs for men and women as well as private 1/1 consultations for men, women and couples.

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Jacqui Olliver
Jacqui Olliver is a Psychosexual Relationship Specialist and published author who renews relationships by solving people's emotional and sexual issues. In the past 7 years, she has helped over 1,000 men, women, and couples restore a relaxed, happy, and fulfilling sex life and enhance their overall connection. Click here to check out her programs or book a complimentary strategy session and start getting real answers to solve the real problems.

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