The Sexual Arousal Scale & How to Balance Your Sexual Focus

The sexual arousal scale is the measurement of how much pleasure you are feeling. A functioning sexual union between a male and a female is determined by two factors:

1. How long it takes for her to finish orgasming

2. How long it takes for him to ejaculate

Now remember, a woman can take up to 20 minutes to achieve her desired amount of orgasms (if she knows the focusing strategy to reach an orgasm). Whereas it only takes a man ONE minute to ejaculate from when he activates the ejaculation program in his brain.

So on that premise, he must keep sexually active during foreplay and intercourse for 20 minutes before he ejaculates.

The problems which are usually encountered for a male are that he can’t get a hard erection, he loses erection hardness, ejaculates early, or can’t ejaculate at all.

Erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation are similar problems, but at opposite ends of the sexual arousal scale.

For a woman, being on the under aroused end of the arousal scale indicates that she is mentally distracted. This means that her libido doesn’t fully engage and she is unable to reach an orgasm.

One of the most common sexual myths is that a woman's partner is responsible for her ability to reach orgasm. This is not the case.

While her partner's technique, his ability to stay hard and in control, and his ability to stay focused to provide a fulfilling emotional connection do play a role here, her overall ability to orgasm is predominantly determined by her own sexual focus.

When a woman's mind is distracted in any way, she is less inclined to experience a powerful orgasm (or any for that matter). This can be due to vaginal dryness, painful penetration, a partner's unwanted technique, or a myriad of other mental distractions.

These are all things I can correct.

For a male, erectile dysfunction and being unable to ejaculate are both indicators that you are on the lower end of the arousal scale. When you’re under aroused there’s no erection or you have a weak erection, or you lose your erection or can’t ejaculate. When a man’s on the under aroused end of the arousal scale he’ll fall off the edge because he can’t maintain his hard.

Conversely, for a man on the over aroused end of the arousal scale, there’s no feeling of control. He feels over-sensitive, thrusting movements don’t feel safe, he’s over excited, quickly reaches the point of no return and ejaculates early.

Erectile dysfunction (weak erection) is usually manifested by putting too much emphasis on your partner, for example too much foreplay on her. Also, being distracted and thinking about the overwhelming circumstances and consequently losing control of your erection hardness due to this pressure.

Too much time spent doing other things and not enough emphasis (or correct technique) on inflating your own penis while attempting to reach the “hard” zone on the arousal scale. With a malfunctioning penis, she has barely started her pleasure time and you can’t participate with her any further!

When you ejaculate early you're on the upper end of the arousal scale. Usually this is manifested by putting too much emphasis on yourself. This is the beginning of the initial problem because it’s basically selfishness even though it’s usually unintentional. This could be considered a loss of self control.

Remember, it takes one minute to ejaculate once you’ve initiated the ejaculation program in your brain. So if you accidentally choose the wrong moment, it ends up being a disaster because your partner has been shortchanged in sexual participation time.

The Sexual Trifecta contains 3 essential elements of sexual focus. Your brain analyses these “messages” then moves you along the arousal scale accordingly.

1. Sexually arousing focus

2. Sexually arousing actions

3. Moderate your awareness of sexual feeling

When your sexual focus is out of balance, the wrong muscle program is activated which causes problems - for a man, this is either erection problems or ejaculation problems. Once he’s out of the safety zone, either down or up he is in the ED (erectile dysfunction) or PE (premature ejaculation) area and is in trouble.

While a woman simply requires more sexual focus to switch on her libido, reach an orgasm and then to achieve multiple orgasms, it’s more of a challenge for a man to balance his sexual focus. He needs to stay hard and in control, which requires some fine-tuning.

Remember, classroom sex education doesn't provide the mental mechanics required for sex, so problems can easily arise when a person doesn't fully understand how to balance their sexual focus. My advanced sex education will prevent what I call "sexual malfunctions" from occurring, as well as solve them.

Can’t get a hard erection, erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation and can’t ejaculate all stem from the same erotic zone, but for different reasons. Males can transition through any variation of the above. The answers to all problems are presented in my programs for that reason, so there isn’t any confusion later!

It’s not ideal for a partner to try and retain their own state of arousal while they wait for their partner to be ready, nor does anyone want sex to be over before it has begun. When a woman has had enough foreplay, she immediately wants her man to switch to intercourse so she can feel him inside her. Then, when she’s had enough fulfilling intercourse time, she wants him to switch to ejaculation. This means he has to be ready to go!

Women also have a sexual arousal scale and it’s just as important for a woman to balance her sexual focus to engage her libido, restore her overall desire for sex as well as to easily reach orgasm.

Fulfilling sex is easy when you are prepared. Preparation is achieved by correctly balancing your sexual focus along the arousal scale throughout ALL sexual activities including during foreplay, penetration and intercourse. Get started on your road to success with my Sex Mastery programs for men and women.