Premature Ejaculation Causes - Understand What Causes PE
By Jacqui Olliver
Premature ejaculation (PE) can have significant repercussions on relationships, affecting both self-confidence and a partner's desire to be intimate. So it's critical to understand premature ejaculation causes, what you are doing to cause PE, and how to correctly address it.
As a seasoned professional in the realm of solving sexual function challenges, I see a lot of men struggling to understand why they are experiencing premature ejaculation and how to prevent it.
What premature ejaculation means
First of all, premature ejaculation does not mean you are broken! You are simply giving your brain too many arousing signals. The correct sexual technique enables your brain to fire the sexual programs in the right order to maintain a hard and in control mode of operation.
By first understanding premature ejaculation causes, you can then fill in the missing gaps in your knowledge base so you stop confusing your brain. This enables you to restore a happy and satisfying sex life and turbocharge the depth of emotional connection you can experience with a partner.
Premature ejaculation is defined as ejaculating within 3 minutes of intercourse, though for many men, ejaculation occurs before intercourse begins. Whether it's a matter of seconds, a few minutes, or 30 minutes, premature ejaculation means not lasting long enough for both partners to feel sexually fulfilled.
Studies indicate that up to 80% of men experience some form of sexual dysfunction, including premature ejaculation.
Premature ejaculation causes many relationships to break down due to emotional disconnection and anxiety. It's time to restore your sexual confidence and your partner's desire for sex!
When does premature ejaculation happen?
Many couples wonder, when does premature ejaculation happen and how it can be managed? When does premature ejaculation happen during sexual activity? When does premature ejaculation happen most frequently in men? What can we do about it?
I am often asked when does premature ejaculation happen and what can be done to prevent it.
Premature ejaculation can happen during any stage of sexual activity, including before foreplay, during foreplay (both giving and receiving), when applying a condom, during penetration, intercourse, and even when changing sexual positions.
Additionally, premature ejaculation may occur when attempting to quickly regain a lost erection or during solo sexual activities like masturbation.
It's crucial to understand when premature ejaculation happens so you can put the right processes in place to regain control over your ejaculation timing and restore deep connection with your partner.
Premature ejaculation most often happens due over stimulating your brain sexually with too many arousal signals. This mainly occurs due to incorrectly timed focus and actions, so it's crucial to know how to balance your sexual focus to regain complete control.
Later in this post, I give a full run-down of premature ejaculation causes related to each stage of the sexual act, so you can understand where you may have been going off track and causing premature ejaculation to happen.
How long should I last before I ejaculate?
Understanding the importance of timing and sexual technique is crucial, especially considering that a significant number of women (80%) struggle to achieve orgasm.
While lasting five minutes is often considered average, it may not align with the time needed for most women to reach orgasm, which typically ranges from 15 to 20 minutes. Addressing this discrepancy requires knowledge about sexual technique and attentional focus to optimize satisfaction for both partners.
Both partners can benefit from learning effective strategies to enhance sexual satisfaction.
Anxiety and stress can be significant premature ejaculation causes
Performance anxiety and stress are common premature ejaculation causes. From worrying about your partner's experience, to navigating control at penetration time, mental stress and anxiety influence sexual performance by causing an imbalance in focus. This distracts and confuses your brain.
Another common example is worrying about ejaculating early rather than being focused on the dynamics of engaging sexually with a partner.
This relates more to not knowing what to focus on, or what to switch focus to, when engaging sexually.
Most people have not been taught a sex education relative to having sex with another person, so there is much confusion and guesswork involved! Premature ejaculation can sneak in when attention takes a detour during the heat of the moment. Get too caught up in your own sensations, and bam—sudden sensitivity and an early finish.
Not knowing how to smoothly shift your attention between yourself, your partner, and the actions of sex is a leading cause of premature ejaculation. This can also cause erectile dysfunction, and problems reaching an orgasm.
It's time to know how to steer your focus right for a more satisfying sexual experience.
The main causes of early ejaculation during sex
Premature ejaculation usually indicates a diversion of focus during sexual activity, leading to ejaculation before it's desired. The timing of ejaculation is closely tied to when your attention becomes misdirected: whether it's before foreplay, during foreplay, leading up to penetration, when putting on a condom, during penetration, throughout intercourse, or during changes in sexual position.
Too much attention on your own experience causes your penis to become hyper-sensitive, which causes you to ejaculate early!
Premature Ejaculation Causes Related to Each Stage of the Sexual Act
These are the 11 most common premature ejaculation causes related to each stage of sex. This list includes the focus imbalances which lead to early ejaculation.
1. Prematurely ejaculating before foreplay
When you ejaculate before foreplay, chances are that you have been overly focused on yourself. Whether you are worrying about your penis (or trying not to worry about it), how aroused you are feeling, or overindulging in images of sexual fantasies and the sensations in your penis, any of these focal points can overwhelm your senses to the point where you ejaculate far too early.
2. Premature ejaculation during foreplay
Ejaculating during foreplay indicates you are overly focusing on how arousing your partner is and how aroused you are feeling. You may be trying not to think about ejaculating or worrying about ejaculating. This indulgence in your own experience overstimulates your brain sexually which causes you to ejaculate.
3. Ejaculating prematurely when putting a condom on
Ejaculating when putting a condom on or when applying lubrication, tends to be caused by overly focusing on how aroused you are feeling. Thinking how overstimulated you are and trying not to think about ejaculating, results in ejaculation.
4. Ejaculating when applying lubrication
You are too focused on yourself. How aroused you are feeling, how overstimulated you are... and trying not to think about ejaculating at penetration time. See how there's a common thread of self-focus going on here?
5. Ejaculating at the start of penetration
Ejaculating at the start of penetration indicates you have focused too much on yourself during foreplay, or how arousing your partner is - and trying not to think about ejaculating as you penetrate! A dry entry increases friction and increases the likelihood of over stimulating your brain sexually at penetration time.
6. Premature ejaculation while changing position
When you ejaculate while changing position, you are either focusing too much on how arousing your partner is, or how aroused you are feeling. Worrying about premature ejaculation, and trying not to think about ejaculating prematurely create mental images that signal your brain to initiate ejaculation.
7. Prematurely ejaculating during intercourse
When you ejaculate during intercourse, you are switching back too frequently to thoughts about your penis - either worrying about ejaculating, trying not to think about ejaculating, or trying not to focus on the sensations in your penis and how arousing your partner and/or intercourse are for you.
8. Ejaculating early during foreplay, putting a condom on, at penetration time, and during intercourse
Ejaculating early during all sexual activity, indicates that you are way too focused on your own experience! Did you know that worrying about ejaculating and trying not to think about ejaculating both send your brain clear signals that ejaculation is the program you want your brain to complete?
9. Premature ejaculation with erectile dysfunction
Feeling over stimulated during foreplay, then losing your erection at the start of penetration indicates you are focusing too much on how aroused you are feeling during foreplay. Then trying not to feel over aroused during foreplay... then overcompensating your change of focus to the point of losing your erection!
Worrying about losing hardness before you penetrate can also cause this problem. In addition to this, when the muscles which support a strong erection become weak, it can take longer to restore a hard erection after ejaculating early.
10. Premature ejaculation and ED during intercourse
Feeling over stimulated during foreplay, putting a condom on, and at the start of penetration; and then losing erection hardness during intercourse. This results from focusing too much on how aroused you are feeling during foreplay, worrying about ejaculating (and trying not to think about ejaculating at the start of penetration). Then trying not to feel overstimulated during intercourse and worrying about losing your erection during intercourse.
11. Premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction explained
Premature ejaculation is predominantly a mental thing, caused by being overly focused on yourself. Too much attention on your own experience causes your penis to become hyper-sensitive, which causes you to ejaculate early!
The problem here is that most men haven't received a sex education relevant to engaging sexually in the real world. Therefore, when he finds himself starting to feel like he's losing control, he doesn't know what to switch his focus from, and to. This often leads to problems losing erection hardness due to wildly catapulting himself from one end of the sexual arousal scale to the other with no fun in between.
As you know, this kind of sex is not fulfilling for either partner. Sex can become an embarrassing and labor intensive process as a man desperately tries to control the awareness of feeling in his penis so he can focus on completing the job.
How to prevent premature ejaculation without medication
While many men are on a quest to prevent premature ejaculation without medication, it's important to understand that wrong sexual focus causes premature ejaculation and many other forms of sexual dysfunction. This includes erectile dysfunction and being unable to ejaculate or reach orgasm.
Therefore, to prevent premature ejaculation without medication a male needs to upgrade his sexual technique so he can correctly balance his sexual focus between himself, his partner and the actions of sex.
This gives his brain the right amount of arousing signals, and him the perfect control he seeks... without the need for medication.
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How to stop premature ejaculation naturally and permanently
Embarking on the journey to stop premature ejaculation naturally and permanently requires a fundamental understanding of the intricacies of the sexual arousal scale. Too much focus either way will cause problems.
Mastering the art of balance in sexual focus during foreplay, penetration, and intercourse is crucial. By providing your brain with the right signals, whether during solo or partnered activities, you'll activate the necessary hormones and muscle programs. This ensures complete control over your arousal.
By effectively managing your sexual focus, your brain can activate and maintain the desired sequence of sexual responses: Erection - Hard and in Control - Ejaculation.
It is not your penis you need to control, it is your BRAIN.
Premature ejaculation and women
Addressing premature ejaculation and women involves recognizing and understanding the challenges faced by both partners. Many women need a prolonged duration of sexual activity to achieve orgasm. However, most women are not aware of the pressure men feel to maintain a hard and in control state throughout their required time.
The requirement of his partner’s foreplay duration can range from 10 to 30 minutes or more. A man with premature ejaculation might initially be fine, but as soon as his partner starts making pleasurable noises, he loses focus. This can either heighten his desire and cause him to ejaculate prematurely, or it can trigger performance anxiety because she is ready for penetration... also causing early ejaculation.
Learning how to correctly balance your sexual focus during foreplay makes penetration easy. When penetration is easy, you will naturally experience less performance anxiety throughout intercourse. This enables you to stay focused on your partner to enhance connection.
Resolve sexual challenges or problems by realigning your sexual focus and technique so your brain receives the right balance of arousal signals.
The best cure for premature ejaculation
Premature ejaculation often arises from excessive self-focus during intimate moments. With thoughts revolving around arousal levels, partner's arousal, and worries about ejaculating early.
Not knowing specifically where to focus next, can result in confusion when attempting to shift attention. This potentially leads to weak erections as well as premature ejaculation, and a dissatisfying sexual experience for both partners.
Just as staying focused is crucial when driving a car to avoid accidents, maintaining concentration during sex is vital for preventing premature ejaculation. The ultimate cure for premature ejaculation lies in prioritizing actions that fulfill your partner's needs. This approach allows you to maintain a fulfilling emotional connection while naturally regulating your ejaculation.
However, striking the perfect balance is essential, as excessive focus on your partner may lead to difficulties maintaining an erection.
Lapses in concentration during sexual activity result in loss of erection or ejaculation control, depending on where you are located on the sexual arousal scale and how you attempt to compensate for the distraction!
Achieving the right balance of sexual focus requires making slight adjustments throughout foreplay, penetration, intercourse (and masturbation) to ensure sustained arousal and control.
Don't leave your sexual wellbeing up to luck! Mastering the art of smoothly transitioning through different stages of sex ensures an enjoyable and satisfying experience for both you and your partner.
How to fix the causes of premature ejaculation
Ideally a man can last for 20-30 minutes during foreplay as well as intercourse to ensure he is able to totally fulfill himself and his partner sexually. To achieve this and fix premature ejaculation requires advanced sexual knowledge.
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Jacqui Olliver
As the founder of the Psychosexual Alignment methodology and published author, Jacqui has helped thousands of men and women easily resolve sex problems and restore emotional connection. Get your ultimate sex education and elevate intimacy to an exciting new level of engagement with Jacqui's Sex Mastery Programs for Men and Women.