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Premature Ejaculation Causes and the Fastest Way to Stop PE

When it comes to addressing premature ejaculation causes, lack of sexual knowledge and inexperience top the list. As a seasoned professional aiding countless men in overcoming sexual function challenges, I've witnessed firsthand how crucial it is to grasp these root causes and their implications on sexual performance. 

My goal is to empower you with knowledge that directly addresses the root causes of premature ejaculation. I'll dive into the most common triggers behind this issue and provide actionable strategies to tackle them head-on. It's time to master the art of timing your ejaculation, build confidence in your connection with your partner, and ensure satisfaction for both of you between the sheets.

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What premature ejaculation means

Premature ejaculation (PE) can have significant repercussions on relationships, affecting both self-confidence and a partner's desire to be intimate. It's defined as ejaculating within 3 minutes of intercourse, though for many men, ejaculation occurs before intercourse begins. Studies suggest that up to 80% of men experience some form of sexual dysfunction, including premature ejaculation.

Whether it's a matter of seconds, a few minutes, or 30 minutes, premature ejaculation means not lasting long enough for both partners to feel sexually fulfilled.

Premature ejaculation does not mean you are broken! If you suffer from premature ejaculation, you are simply missing the right sexual knowledge and technique. By first understanding premature ejaculation causes, you can then fill in the missing gaps in your knowledge base so you stop confusing your brain. This enables you to restore a happy and satisfying sex life and turbocharge the depth of your emotional connection with a partner.

Sex is not just about how long you last... What's most important in your intimate relationship is a fulfilling emotional connection where both partners are able to fully express themselves and enjoy their sexual time together. With PE, there is no connection.

When does premature ejaculation happen?

Most men seek to understand when premature ejaculation happens because they desire a profound connection with their partner. Premature ejaculation can happen during any stage of sexual activity, including before foreplay, during foreplay (both giving and receiving), when applying a condom, during penetration, intercourse, and even when changing sexual positions.

Additionally, premature ejaculation may occur when attempting to quickly regain a lost erection or during solo sexual activities like masturbation. Later in this post, I give a full run-down of premature ejaculation causes related to each stage of the sexual act, so you can understand where you may have been going off track with your focus.

How long should I last before I ejaculate?

Navigating the timing of sexual encounters is a common concern for men. The ideal duration before ejaculation varies based on individual preferences and cultural norms. However, understanding the nuances of sexual timing is essential for satisfying both partners.

While lasting five minutes is often considered average, it may not align with the time needed for women to reach orgasm, which typically ranges from 15 to 20 minutes. Addressing this discrepancy requires knowledge about sexual technique and attentional focus to optimize satisfaction for both partners.

Understanding the importance of timing and sexual technique is crucial, especially considering that a significant number of women (80%) struggle to achieve orgasm.

Women too, are sadly lacking in the right sexual knowledge. Both partners can benefit from learning effective strategies to enhance sexual satisfaction and fulfillment.

Anxiety and stress can be significant premature ejaculation causes

Performance anxiety and stress are common concerns, and among the most prevalent premature ejaculation causes. Mental stress and anxiety influence sexual performance by causing an imbalance in focus, which distracts and confuses the brain. A common example is worrying about ejaculating early rather than being focused on the dynamics of engaging sexually, especially with a partner.

Most people have not been taught a sex education relative to engaging sexually, so there is lot of confusion and guesswork involved! Not knowing how to smoothly shift your attention between yourself, your partner, and the actions of sex is a leading cause of premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, and problems reaching an orgasm.

Applying the right knowledge and techniques to balance your sexual focus will eliminate anxious thoughts because there will no longer be any problems!

Premature ejaculation can sneak in when attention takes a detour during the heat of the moment. Get too caught up in your own sensations, and bam—sudden sensitivity and an early finish. It's time to know how to steer your focus right for a more satisfying sexual experience.

Great sex no problems starts here.

The main causes of early ejaculation during sex

Premature ejaculation usually indicates a diversion of focus during sexual activity, leading to ejaculation before it's desired. The timing of ejaculation is closely tied to when your attention becomes misdirected: whether it's before foreplay, during foreplay, leading up to penetration, when putting on a condom, during penetration, throughout intercourse, or during changes in sexual position.

Too much attention on your own experience causes your penis to become hyper-sensitive, which causes you to ejaculate early!

Premature Ejaculation Causes Related to Each Stage of the Sexual Act

These are the 10 most common premature ejaculation causes related to each stage of sex, explained from the male point of view. This list of premature ejaculation causes includes the focus imbalances which lead to early ejaculation.

  • 1. Prematurely ejaculating before foreplay

  • When you ejaculate before foreplay, chances are that you have been overly focused on yourself. Whether you are worrying about your penis (or trying not to worry about it), how aroused you are feeling, or overindulging in images of sexual fantasies and the sensations in your penis, any of these focal points can overwhelm your senses to the point where you ejaculate far too early.

  • 2. Premature ejaculation during foreplay

  • Ejaculating during foreplay indicates you are overly focusing on how arousing your partner is and how aroused you are feeling. You may be trying not to think about ejaculating or worrying about ejaculating. This indulgence in your own experience overstimulates your brain sexually which causes you to ejaculate. 

  • 3. Ejaculating prematurely when putting a condom on

  • Ejaculating when putting a condom on or when applying lubrication, tends to be caused by overly focusing on how aroused you are feeling. Thinking how overstimulated you are and trying not to think about ejaculating, results in ejaculation.

  • 3. Ejaculating when applying lubrication

  • You are too focused on yourself. How aroused you are feeling, how overstimulated you are... and trying not to think about ejaculating at penetration time. See how there's a common thread of self-focus going on here?

  • 4. Ejaculating at the start of penetration

  • Ejaculating at the start of penetration indicates you have focused too much on yourself during foreplay, or how arousing your partner is - and trying not to think about ejaculating as you penetrate! A dry entry increases friction and increases the likelihood of over stimulating your brain sexually at penetration time.

  • 5. Premature ejaculation while changing position

  • When you ejaculate while changing position, you are either focusing too much on how arousing your partner is, or how aroused you are feeling. Worrying about premature ejaculation, and trying not to think about ejaculating prematurely create mental images that signal your brain to initiate ejaculation. 

  • 6. Prematurely ejaculating during intercourse
  • When you ejaculate during intercourse, you are switching back too frequently to thoughts about your penis - either worrying about ejaculating, trying not to think about ejaculating, or trying not to focus on the sensations in your penis and how arousing your partner and/or intercourse are for you.

  • 7. Ejaculating early during foreplay, putting a condom on, at penetration time, and during intercourse

  • Ejaculating early during all sexual activity, indicates that you are way too focused on your own experience! Did you know that worrying about ejaculating and trying not to think about ejaculating both send your brain clear signals that ejaculation is the program you want your brain to complete?

  • 8. Premature ejaculation with erectile dysfunction

  • Feeling over stimulated during foreplay, then losing your erection at the start of penetration indicates you are focusing too much on how aroused you are feeling during foreplay. Then trying not to feel over aroused during foreplay... then overcompensating your change of focus to the point of losing your erection!

    Worrying about losing hardness before you penetrate can also cause this problem. In addition to this, when the muscles which support a strong erection become weak, it can take longer to restore a hard erection after ejaculating early.

  • 9. Premature ejaculation and ED during intercourse

  • Feeling over stimulated during foreplay, putting a condom on, and at the start of penetration; and then losing erection hardness during intercourse. This results from focusing too much on how aroused you are feeling during foreplay, worrying about ejaculating (and trying not to think about ejaculating at the start of penetration). Then trying not to feel overstimulated during intercourse and worrying about losing your erection during intercourse.

  • 10. Premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction explained

  • Premature ejaculation is predominantly a mental thing, caused by being overly focused on yourself. Too much attention on your own experience causes your penis to become hyper-sensitive, which causes you to ejaculate early!

    The problem here is that most men haven't received a sex education relevant to engaging sexually in the real world. Therefore, when he finds himself starting to feel like he's losing control, he doesn't know what to switch his focus from, and to. This often leads to problems losing erection hardness due to wildly catapulting himself from one end of the sexual arousal scale to the other with no fun in between.

    As you know, this kind of sex is not fulfilling for either partner. Sex can become an embarrassing and labor intensive process as a man desperately tries to control the awareness of feeling in his penis so he can focus on completing the job.

How to prevent premature ejaculation without medication

While many men and couples are on a quest to prevent premature ejaculation without medication, it's important to understand that wrong sexual focus causes premature ejaculation and many other forms of sexual dysfunction. This includes erectile dysfunction and being unable to ejaculate or reach orgasm.

Therefore, to prevent premature ejaculation without medication a male needs to upgrade to the right knowledge and skill base so he can correctly balance his sexual focus between himself, his partner and the actions of sex.

This gives him the perfect control he seeks...

How to stop premature ejaculation naturally and permanently

Embarking on the journey to stop premature ejaculation naturally and permanently requires a fundamental understanding of the intricacies of the sexual arousal scale. Mastering the art of balance in sexual focus during foreplay, penetration, and intercourse is crucial. By providing your brain with the right signals, whether during solo or partnered activities, you'll activate the necessary hormones and muscle programs. This ensures complete control over your arousal. 

By effectively managing sexual focus during intimacy, a man's brain can activate and maintain the desired sequence of sexual responses: Erection - Hard and in Control - Ejaculation.

You cannot try not to think about a pink elephant without immediately thinking about a pink elephant, and the same is true regarding arousal of your penis! By implementing correct focusing strategies you will transform your sexual experience.

Premature ejaculation and women

Addressing premature ejaculation and its effects on women involves recognizing and understanding the challenges faced by both partners, particularly when women struggle to achieve orgasm. For them, the duration of sexual activity becomes crucial. 

Especially when dealing with premature ejaculation and women, tackling these concerns is vital to ensure a mutually satisfying sexual experience. In such situations, the duration of intercourse becomes a significant concern for many women.

It's common to feel anxious when your partner expresses pleasure during foreplay, signaling the imminent request for penetration. This can exacerbate performance anxiety for men already concerned about lasting long enough.

During foreplay, men need to maintain arousal and control for the necessary duration required by their partner, which may vary widely (from 10 to 30 minutes or more) before she is ready for penetrative intercourse. Most women don't understand the amount of pressure put on men to stay hard and in control throughout foreplay - when she is ready she expects her partner to be ready too! 

Achieving the right balance in sexual focus during foreplay facilitates smooth penetration and reduces performance anxiety, allowing for a deeper connection with your partner.

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Correctly balancing your sexual focus during foreplay makes penetration easy. When penetration is easy, you will naturally experience less performance anxiety during intercourse. This enables you to stay focused on your partner to enhance connection.

Premature ejaculation often arises from excessive self-focus during intimate moments. With thoughts revolving around arousal levels, partner's arousal, and worries about ejaculating early. Not knowing specifically where to focus next, can result in confusion when attempting to shift attention. This potentially leads to weak erections as well, and a dissatisfying sexual experience for both partners.

The best cure for premature ejaculation

The ultimate cure for premature ejaculation lies in prioritizing actions that fulfill your partner's needs. This approach allows you to maintain a fulfilling emotional connection while naturally regulating your ejaculation. However, striking the perfect balance is essential, as excessive focus on your partner may lead to difficulties maintaining an erection.

Also, lapses in concentration during intercourse can result in loss of erection or ejaculatory control, depending on how you attempt to compensate for the distraction. Premature ejaculation often occurs when the brain receives conflicting or unrelated signals during sexual activity.

Achieving the right balance of sexual focus requires continual adjustments throughout foreplay, penetration, and intercourse to ensure sustained arousal and control.

Just as staying focused is crucial when driving a car to avoid accidents, maintaining concentration during sex is vital for preventing premature ejaculation. Mastering the art of smoothly transitioning through sexual stages with precise timing ensures an enjoyable and satisfying experience for both you and your partner.

How to fix the causes of premature ejaculation

Ideally a man can last for 20-30 minutes during foreplay as well as intercourse to ensure he is able to totally fulfill himself and his partner sexually. To achieve this and fix premature ejaculation requires upgrading to the right knowledge and technique. 

Recommended by medical professionals, my Sex Mastery Programs for men and women are 100% private and confidential. You can view them privately on my website and download the contents.

The male program explains step-by-step how to correctly balance your sexual focus to stay in control during foreplay, penetration, intercourse, and masturbation. You would be surprised how many of my clients went from ejaculating within seconds of penetration to not being able to ejaculate for more than an hour, after going through my program! So to ensure you are covering all bases, valuable guidance on preventing weak erections and challenges reaching ejaculation are covered too. 

One payment gives you lifetime access so you can fix premature ejaculation (and erectile dysfunction), with informative resources provided to keep as back-up. This price includes the Sex Mastery program for women, so your female partner can restore her libido and easily reach her desired number of orgasms during intercourse as well as foreplay.

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A satisfying sex life can be easily achieved, all it takes is a few simple tweaks in your approach to sex and intimacy. I have total confidence my unique insights will set you up sexually for life.

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