Have you ever wondered what makes you feel separate and misunderstood? You try so hard to communicate your needs, but you still don’t feel heard. You try to stay calm when your heart’s madly racing and keep your words carefully modulated - but people still react to them! And then you find yourself reacting to their reaction - and nothing is ever resolved! So why does it feel like there are invisible walls which make you feel isolated and prevent you from connecting with others?
The answer lies in the emotional response. This is an integral human response, which every person experiences - in many cases it's triggered 40+ times per day. Unresolved emotional responses create invisible walls of resistance and the feeling of separation and isolation. Yet, each emotional response which is consciously resolved in the moment can become an instant catalyst to feeling happy, balanced and aligned within yourself. From this state, it is natural to feel more relaxed and connected with others.
An emotional response is an instant, internal physical reaction to a disagreeable thought or an unwanted situation. It precedes the thoughts you have about the situation you find yourself in. When allowed to take place, it can stop judgemental and negative thoughts. Try to block this physical discomfort and you can’t think clearly or communicate clearly and that invisible wall of resistance is instantly erected. This is what immediately makes you feel separate from yourself and others, and totally misunderstood.
When you try to ignore the physical emotional response, by default, you switch to a mental analysis of it. This results in a mental tug of war, as you analyse and react to your current situation and what you think it means. This can quickly lead to feeling stressed, separate and totally disconnected.
Here’s how you can prevent that unwanted sense of disconnect:
The Emotional Reset Technique (ERT)
The Emotional Reset Technique helps to prevent or neutralise the fight/flight, freeze/shutdown hormonal response when it’s triggered and can prevent your mind from over analysing and overreacting to situations.
The emotional reset part of the technique resolves the triggered emotional response and enables you to achieve a powerful state of pause, so you have time to feel and think clearly. By naturally resetting your point of focus into a more neutral, calm, and aligned perspective, this can provide an intelligent way to express your thoughts and feelings from an empowered state instead of feeling overwhelmed. Your best communication and choices come from a state of calm.
From there, you are more able to relate with confidence by being able to respond in the most appropriate manner whether triggered from an internal or external (imagined or real) event. The best way to respond is to act from a place of safety, calm and power.
The Emotional Reset Technique can help prevent worry, anxiety, family violence, addictions, depression, sexual dysfunction, violence, bullying, harassment, isolation and suicide. When applied consistently, this can lead you into a consistent state of mental and emotional peace and well being. It also helps to remove isolation and loneliness by restoring a sense of connection with others.
ERT: Your Key to Mastering Your Relationship with Yourself and Other People
The aim of the Emotional Reset Technique is to stop the cycle of violence toward ourselves and others by controlling our emotional triggers. This is the key to relationship mastery as well as the secret to enjoying life.
Who Developed the Emotional Reset Technique?
The Emotional Reset Technique™ was initially conceptualized by Jacqui Olliver, Psychosexual Relationship Specialist at End the Problem, published author and recognised authority on enriching relationships by solving people's emotional and sexual issues. Jacqui is passionate about helping people develop new mindsets and strategies to overcome life challenges.
Jacqui Olliver joined forces with Kerry Babbage, the CEO of the MATES Organisation (a registered charity) to develop the Emotional Reset Technique and supporting online program and phone app. Over the last 15 years, Kerry has been passionate about helping people in the community work through suicidal idealisation, family violence and mental health, especially men.
"What’s really exciting, especially for us in having worked in the community for so long is that we’ve seen amazing results and know this is the tip of the iceberg. We all know that we should focus on what we want. This technique and alignment process fully explains why and how - so you can radically improve your relationships with others, as well as your mental and emotional well being."
Backed by leading Neuroscientists and Neuroscience, the Emotional Reset Technique has linked together the Emotional Brain, the Autonomic Nervous System, the Reticular Activating System (RAS) and the function of the Cerebellum to more fully activate the body's inherent Social Engagement System (SES).
The Unwanted Cycle of Triggered Emotions
When you don't know how to immediately resolve an emotional response you get caught up in an endless cycle of being triggered and retriggered by your thoughts and external events. This leads to the need for addictions, as well as loneliness and social isolation.
The Social Engagement System which is the evolved aspect of your autonomic nervous system (a theory developed by Dr Stephen Porges) doesn't fully engage due to you rarely feeling completely safe.
Without fully activating your Social Engagement System you can feel isolated and separate from others:
Without resolving the triggered emotional response by apply the emotional reset, your body and mind remain on high alert. So instead of the Social Engagement System allowing you to actively connect and engage with others, you continue to scan for potential problems.
This keeps you feeling separate and is what often leads to loneliness, depression, arguments and relationship breakdown.
The Outcome of Applying the Emotional Reset:
On the other hand, when you apply the Emotional Reset, you are able to neutralise the triggered emotion and can immediately restore a sense of connection and ease with others. This provides a mental, physical and emotional rest. Then you may apply the full processes of the Emotional Reset Technique to align yourself and fully automate this new way of dealing with emotional triggers:
The Emotional Reset Technique enables you to:
On completion of the emotional reset process, there is a natural pause preempting cognitive activity which allows alignment towards a positive mindset. It is much like the pause which occurs on completion of a sneeze. This allows you to feel calm and clear while also at ease and connected. From this physically, emotionally and mentally aligned state you can more easily redirect your thoughts into a sense of personal well being.
Eliminating Heart Disease, Loneliness & Isolation
The Emotional Reset Technique (ERT) reawakens a natural process in your brain to overcome negative triggers and align you with what you want. Along with reducing loneliness, feelings of separation and social anxiety, the Emotional Reset Technique can radically decrease arguments and negative thinking and empower communication especially in relationships. It's a simple process that provides you with a powerful pause to discern the most beneficial actions to take when you're feeling unsafe or triggered.
As well as improving your mental and emotional state, the Emotional Reset Technique can also have a positive effect on various physical ailments including heart disease and kidney failure. This is due to vagus nerve activation and balancing of metabolic processes, as well as reducing fears pertaining to the possibility of dying.
Dr Vijay Raghavan, a leading Diabetes and Metabolic Medical Specialist has provided empirical evidence to support the Emotional Reset Technique in his clinical practice in the treatment of chronic kidney failure and heart disease. This doctor is utilising our breakthrough Emotional Reset Technique with his patients to achieve astonishing results: (see below for supporting documentation).
Further, the Emotional Reset Technique:
Along with the evidence provided below, more empirical evidence for the Emotional Reset Technique will be forthcoming in upcoming articles.
The Emotional Reset Technique Submission for New Zealand Ministerial Inquiry into Mental Health & Addictions
We see New Zealand leading the way into a new mental health paradigm which is inclusive and effective for all people across all cultures. It is with great excitement that we share a win/win solution to both mental health and addiction problems, and promote wellbeing within the New Zealand community and globally. Within this submission we provided specific answers to the three main concerns:
See our full submission to the New Zealand Ministerial Inquiry into Mental Health & Addictions (including case study medical documentation from Dr Vijay Raghavan) here:
Further video empirical evidence of the Emotional Reset Technique is available here: https://youtu.be/BPoqbtBLAas