5 Factors Which Ruin a Woman’s Sex Life

Unlike men (who generally have a consistently high desire for sex) women tend to go through cycles of desire which tie in with their menstrual cycle. Outside of her menstrual cycle here are five specific factors which influence a woman’s sex life and overall desire for sex:

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1. Vaginal Dryness

Makes sex painful and uncomfortable. Although generally reported by peri and post menopausal women, inner vaginal dryness affects many younger women too. It’s important to note that if her brain is distracted during the lead up to sex, it’s impossible for natural lubrication to take place regardless of her age. While external lube is important to use (and makes penetration easier for men) it doesn’t lubricate her inner vaginal walls.

Women who experience inner vaginal dryness can learn how to easily self-lubricate their vagina to regain comfort and pleasure during sex.

2. Lack Of Libido

Frequently experienced by women after childbirth and those going through menopause, lack of libido affects nearly 40% of all women. Libido can also be affected by other sex problems such as being unable to orgasm or a partner’s undesirable sexual technique.

Kick-starting a woman’s libido requires a specific sexual strategy as outlined in my Sex Mastery program for women. This can easily be achieved within minutes (unless there is an underlying serious health issue which needs to be attended to.)

5 Factors Which Ruin a Woman's Sex Life

3. Ability To Orgasm

Being unable to orgasm is unbelievably frustrating and is one of the main causes for lack of interest in sex by a woman. Imagine going a lifetime, without being able to feel fulfilled sexually? Orgasm problems affect 80% of women with 20% of those women being unable to orgasm at all.

As with other sex problems, orgasm requires an exact step by step strategy so the mind doesn’t become distracted during sex and cancel out the orgasm program in her brain.

4. Partner’s Technique

This is a massive subject within itself. If her partner suffers from sex problems such as early ejaculation, erectile dysfunction (weak erections) being unable to orgasm or unable to ejaculate, sex becomes such an emotionally draining event that she loses motivation for initiating sex after a period of time. Unfortunately, this compounds her partner’s performance anxiety.

Sometimes her partner doesn’t have a specific sex problem, but his (or her) technique isn’t fulfilling for her. Considering that most men gain their sex education from watching porn, many have an unrealistic view of what technique is actually fulfilling from a woman’s perspective during sex.

5. Health And Fitness

Sex is a vigorous exercise which requires a fair amount of energy and stamina. Use these 3 best exercises to improve your overall strength and fitness to increase sexual function. https://www.endtheproblem.com/best-exercises-to-improve-sexual-function/

In Summary

Women require sex to be fulfilling to maintain their interest and desire for sex. If she is experiencing inner vaginal dryness, suffering from a low libido, or finding it difficult to orgasm – or if she has a partner with an ineffective sexual technique and/or she has health and fitness issues, then a woman’s sex life will not be fun for her and her overall desire for sex will decline.

Related:
Sex Mastery for Women: Enjoyable Sex and Orgasms


Psychosexual Relationship Specialist and published author, Jacqui Olliver has helped thousands of men, women and couples restore emotional and sexual satisfaction in their lives. Click here to check out her programs or to book a complimentary strategy session.

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  • I believe this.. I’ve honestly never had a problem with sex. I stay active and I’ve noticed when I’m not as active as I usually am, I’m not myself especially in the bedroom. Technique on his part too should be changed up. I’m trying to work on that with my partner.

    • Hi Celina, I agree. Many men use sexual technique based on a porn education which can totally put a woman off sex. This is only because he hasn’t been taught (or told) what a woman wants. Tell him how you like to be kissed, your favourite position – and to keep in your center – so he is always hitting the mark and making you purr 🙂

      Sexual dysfunction issues including premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction (soft erections) are solved in my Hard and in Control sex mastery program for men: https://www.endtheproblem.com/programs/hard-and-in-control-sex-mastery/

  • This is so true. For 20 years, my wife was unable to achieve orgasm and it got to the point where we only had sex once every 2-3 months! Not having frequent sex was killing me. Your programs have saved our marriage.

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