Known as anorgasmia, being unable to orgasm is devastating for your self esteem and when you can’t orgasm with a partner – it makes you wonder if there is something inherently wrong with you. But according to Planned Parenthood statistics, a staggering 80% of women have difficulty reaching orgasm from vaginal intercourse alone and 1 in 3 of these women have trouble reaching orgasm during any sexual activity.
For men, being unable to orgasm is a less frequent problem (yet no less frustrating) than erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation.
You can’t orgasm simply by hoping. Or by telling yourself “Come on! I want it to happen now!” And as you know, when the feeling is intense and you start thinking “Is it?… Is it?… Is it?” It usually isn’t.
The “Aw, just about had it..” thought promptly follows another failed attempt, as those intensely delicious feelings melt away… and you are left feeling disappointed yet again, in your inability to feel sexually fulfilled… in your ability to fulfil your partner… and in your ability to feel fulfilled as a human being.
PERFORMANCE ANXIETY is the greatest sex killer and frequently determines whether or not you will be able to orgasm. The same rules for achieving orgasm apply to both men and women.
Basically, there are 3 main factors to take into the orgasm equation:
Mechanics – the act of sex, whether it be with a partner or by yourself.
Mental – your thoughts, the way you are thinking.
Sensation – your awareness of feeling.
These sexual programs in your brain MUST be activated in the correct order for you to build sexual intensity, which then enables you to orgasm. Being able to orgasm becomes quite easy, once you understand exactly how this process works. Without this knowledge you will continue to have random results, as well as more boring or disappointing sexual encounters.
Being able to orgasm isn’t about what position you’re in, or just about your partner’s technique (although if your partner has a sexual problem then obviously that’s going to shorten the time frame available to you and compound your pressure to achieve orgasm before he finishes.)
Male and female orgasms are different. While a man usually ejaculates at the same time he orgasms, a woman can orgasm and experience female ejaculations separately and multiple times within a very short time frame during intercourse. But only if she understands how to control the sexual programs in her brain.
There is a female orgasm program and a female ejaculation program. Simply choose your preferred program, activate the correct procedure in your brain and boom! you activate the correct response in your body. It’s as easy as that, even if you have never orgasmed or you orgasm infrequently.
From my in-depth, ongoing research, it appears that no one else has figured this out. This isn’t the same old advice you would get anywhere else on the internet, from a sex therapist, from a doctor or a psychologist. This knowledge and straight forward technique is a unique method discovered and developed by me.
I have helped many men and women enjoy fantastic sex by understanding and applying, this very simple concept.
Just like a man needs to focus in a specific manner to be able to retain his erection and stay in control – and ejaculate when he wants to, both men and women must focus in a specific manner to ensure they don’t accidentally switch themselves out of their orgasm program.
A man is generally limited to one ejaculation and orgasm, so the timing of it is crucial. For some men, being able to orgasm is a strenuous and arduous task – taking such a long time that his partner becomes bored waiting for it to happen. This is not an ideal situation, as a woman (or man) unfulfilled by her (or his) partner’s technique tends to want sex infrequently – which adds to the performance pressure when the man finally gets the chance to have sex again.
Many of my clients have reported rapid results in achieving fulfilling orgasms and enjoyable sex with my method which is recommended by leading medical specialists.
“For the last 15 years I randomly experienced episodes of premature ejaculation, losing my erection and also being unable to orgasm at times. It was frustrating – I never knew what was going to happen so I always had a great deal of performance anxiety.
Jacqui helped me realize the innate ability I have to control my sexual arousal – significantly decreasing my anxiety and stress. She helps you unlock what you already know, while making you feel relaxed and at ease.” Leslie
I can teach you how to have fulfilling orgasms too. So you can go from “Help, I can’t orgasm!” to “Yeeha, on demand!” and enjoy fulfilling intercourse every time you have sex. It’s an easy technique to learn – and great fun to practice, by yourself or with a partner. Get the FAQ for solving your sex problems.