How to Stop Feeling Anxious, Depressed and Emotionally Overwhelmed

Anxiety, depression and mental health are constantly in the news. So what causes anxiety, depression and the feeling of being overwhelmed? I have a completely different take on the cause of anxiety and depression, and how to stop feeling anxious and depressed naturally without drugs.

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Many people incorrectly believe that depression is simply a medical condition which is out of their control.

However, knowing how to apply the correct knowledge and techniques to successfully resolve emotions as well as the problems triggering them, you can have complete autonomy over your mental and emotional wellbeing:

By solving the emotional problem you can naturally restore your mind and body to a place of calm.

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What Causes Anxiety and Depression?

Having problems in your life which you don’t know how to solve, results in ongoing ruminations and negative thoughts of imagined outcomes which can lead to emotional reactions such as anxiety. Constantly thinking in this way can eventually result in depression as you practice the habit of engaging in a negative mental and emotional feedback loop.

When you are emotionally triggered, your prefrontal cortex shuts down which prevents you from thinking and communicating clearly. This can have a detrimental effect on your relationships with others, especially when you are feeling anxious, angry, frustrated, or disappointed and struggle to communicate what you perceive to be the problem. It can make you feel like there are invisible walls of resistance which are keeping you feeling separate and alone.

Stress hormones which flood your body when you're emotionally triggered are distinctly uncomfortable so will often retrigger further emotional reactions.

Constantly feeling emotionally triggered can affect your perception of your mental health and overall sense of well-being. Emotional instability leads to mental instability, these are the prevailing factors which contribute to a person's depressed, anxious, and overwhelmed state.

By solving the emotional problem you can naturally restore your mind and body to a place of calm.

Why Do My Emotions Overwhelm Me?

When you suppress emotions you automatically default to thinking about why you think you feel that way. This can quickly overwhelm you as you contemplate all that’s going wrong in your life and what you think it means. These thoughts then create an endless and depressing loop of negative thoughts and the related emotional reactions which continue to stress your body and mind.

Emotions which people commonly suppress include anxiety, fear, anger, frustration, and disappointment. When you can’t see an answer to your problem or don't resolve your emotions when they are triggered, it causes a negative thought and reactive emotion loop which makes you feel like you’re constantly being triggered. This is why it sometimes appears that an emotion is intensifying. It’s not, it’s just that your point of focus is attracting similar thoughts which are triggering further emotional reactions.

A clear example of an unresolved emotional state, is that you feel mentally and emotionally overwhelmed.

If you want to stop feeling anxious, depressed and emotionally overwhelmed, you need to consciously interrupt your habit of negatively contemplating your problems and focusing on what you don't want to happen. This is because there is a filter in your brain called the Reticular Activating System (RAS) which sets its filters depending on what you are predominantly focusing your attention on - and then makes you notice more of that.

Which means the more you think about something, the more inclined you are to think about it, and the more related emotional responses are triggered!

Most of us are taught from a young age to suppress an emotional response when it's triggered. This is what makes us feel isolated and depressed and prevents us from feeling connected with other people. 

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How Can I Be in Control of My Emotions?

To be in control of your emotions, you need to consciously take charge of your emotions whenever they are triggered. When an emotional response is unresolved, e.g. ignored, investigated, over-felt, over-examined or suppressed in any way then you cannot feel calm and at ease. This is because the programs which regulate your heart rate, breathing, blood pressure, and relax your muscles are interrupted by stress hormones when an emotional response is triggered, and your body goes on high alert. This is why emotional reactions feel so intense and physically uncomfortable. 

When you consciously resolve an emotional response by simply recognising and allowing this natural biological reaction to take place, your body goes back into sync and your prefrontal cortex comes back online which is why you immediately feel better. Then it's a matter of correctly reprogramming your brain filter with the right information so you can remain focused on creating what you want.

Conversely, whenever you choose to block an emotional response, you keep yourself in a depressed or anxious emotional state. This happens because you continue to be caught up in the biological stress responses of your brain. In this state, you can’t think clearly, you can’t feel good and your modes of thought and action are contaminated at an operational level because you cannot process any new information. This is what makes you feel overwhelmed to the point of giving up. You’ve disconnected yourself from reality.  

Without understanding how to resolve an emotional response (so you can feel calm and easily redirect your thoughts) you will default between negative thoughts and the emotions triggered by those thoughts.

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Emotional Stability is Key to Ending Depression

When an emotional response remains unresolved, it feels like you’re dialing in between two radio stations and only experiencing the static. This makes you feel separate, depressed, isolated and alone, as you struggle to communicate meaningfully with others.

Our brain is designed to connect with others, yet we must make sure we are using its full capabilities, so we don't go "offline" when we feel emotionally triggered. When we are triggered, our body language, facial expressions and tonality reflect tension which has a repelling effect on others. This is what causes us to feel depressed, isolated and alone.

Conversely, when you are feeling emotionally stable, your body language and tone of voice will convey your calm demeanor and state of wellbeing. This has an attracting effect on others, as it enhances their feelings of safety and wellbeing which increases their desire to be with you. 

How to Solve Anxiety, Depression and Feeling Emotionally Overwhelmed

Resolving your emotional responses naturally aligns your body and mind so you can be led into inspired action. However, in solving anxiety, depression and feelings of overwhelmed it's important to deal with connection issues which would otherwise continue to invade and contaminate your mind.

Improving your ability to feel good in your relationships requires upskilling your abilities in the following areas by understanding:

  1. How to resolve and prevent emotional reactions so they don’t lead you into a downward negative spiral which makes you feel isolated and inadequate.
  2. Common behaviors you do which cause other people to become emotionally triggered.
  3. How to stay in alignment with yourself so feeling confident, peaceful and connected with others is your NORMAL state of being.
  4. How attraction works, so you can confidently participate in, and grow your relationships with others (without feeling needy or compromised). 
  5. How to solve sexual “malfunctions” so you can become confident in your ability to satisfy and feel satisfied in a loving and intimate relationship.

These answers and so much more are contained in my programs for men, women, and couples. Get the answers on how to stop feeling anxious and depressed so you can restore a relaxed, happy and satisfying life today. Gain more insights and schedule a complimentary strategy session here.

Psychosexual Relationship Specialist and published author, Jacqui Olliver has helped thousands of men, women and couples restore emotional and sexual satisfaction in their lives. Click here to check out her programs or to book a complimentary strategy session.

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  • This blog is so very true, learning to deal with depression is so much easier then trying to come off the drugs. Depression is a normal reaction to an abnormal situation.

  • I recently got separated from my partner. We have been together for last 6 years. He cheated on me and left me for another girl. I am really depressed so to get rid of it I have started using pills. Will pills help me to get rid of depression?

    • Hi Bridgette, I’m sorry to hear of your loss. While they may give you some relief for a week or two, many people report that taking pills makes them feel blank and disconnected. Pills will not resolve your emotional pain nor give you the skills to move forward in your life.

      To reconnect with life, you need to understand how to be in charge of your emotions and thinking so you become in charge of how you feel, regardless of what is going on in your life. Drink plenty of water, 6-8 glasses each day to hydrate yourself and find 5 things every day that you are grateful for. Start appreciating all the little things such as the sun on your face and wind in your hair. Reconnect with yourself by enjoying transient sensations in your body.

      As you begin to turn your attention toward what you want in a future relationship and how you want to feel, you will start to reprogram your brain toward experiencing more peace and happiness.

  • I have been fighting anxiety & depression for last 6 years. I have been on drugs to get rid of depression but nothing is working for me. Do you think you can help me out getting rid of depression and anxiety?

    • Hi Adam, I’m totally confident I can help you resolve anxiety and depression and restore your ability to feel good about living your life. Please book a complimentary s 20-minute strategy session here.

  • I am completely drained out because of lot of things happening in my personal life. I try to be calm and composed but lately anxiety and depression are over ruling my mind. What do you suggest?

  • I broke up with my BF recently and that is putting me under a lot of stress. Please suggest what I should do as I don’t want to go into depression and all.

  • I was taking drugs to get rid of my anxiety and depression but now the situation has even got worse. Please help me out!

  • Jacqui, this article is brilliant! Thank you for all your help in ridding me of my problems. I recommend you to all my friends.

  • I was looking for a natural way to get rid of my anxiety problem and I came across your post. The points which you have covered in your article will really help me to get rid of my disorder?

    • Hi Harry, the Emotional Reset Technique has proven to be very successful in overcoming anxiety and other mental health issues. This is because it coordinates the brain/body chemical reactions to bring a person back into personal balance.

  • I have been suffering from anxiety and depression for past 3 years. Your insights are really helpful, I feel like there is new hope. I never heard of resolving an emotional response until now.

    • Hi Alice, feeling disconnected from yourself is caused by mentally fighting the emotional responses when they are triggered. This eventually leads to depression and stress.

  • After reading this article, I have better understanding to control my emotions. Thanks!

  • I am going through a rough divorce so I feel emotionally down and out. Any help would be appreciated.

  • One of the best written article on Anxiety and Depression as you have covered all the vital points which an individual needs to understand to gain better clarity and to get rid of such disorders.

  • I tried Jacqui’s program and I must say that it really helped me a lot to overcome all my challenges.

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