Men and women commonly suffer from a lack of libido and start losing interest in sex. While diet and exercise can play a part in causing a low libido, they’re generally not the main cause. Our thoughts are the most dominant factor in what causes lack of libido.
Via our thoughts, our brain controls the sex programs and all related hormonal responses. When the brain is constantly distracted, it causes the libido to switch off.
While children, stress and health issues can temporarily affect a person’s libido, your thoughts provide a constant source of distraction. So, let’s look at how thoughts can affect your libido.
We have the male perspective and the female perspective. Certain sex problems such as premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction and being unable to orgasm will eventually negatively affect the libido. This is because of the mental contamination and disruption associated with these challenges.
Sex is the ultimate expression of love for a partner. To show desire and emotion wrapped into one – the physical closeness and underlying emotion. When physical closeness is impeded by a sexual dysfunction problem such as PE or ED, it affects the quality of the emotional connection. Instead of feeling close and connected, the underlying fear of performance causes feelings of separation and disconnection in both partners. This eventually results in a loss of libido for either partner.
What Causes Lack of Libido in Women?Women tend to switch between many subjects at once – known to cause confusion to many males! This tendency toward mental distraction in women can also lead to a lack of libido.
Unfortunately, most men aren’t very forthcoming with details, which can result in him accidentally switching off her libido!
Many women have confided their concerns to me about their man’s sex problems. For example:
When her male suffers from erectile dysfunction and loses his hard during foreplay, it’s common for a woman to over-analyse the cause and think it’s happening because:
- He’s not attracted to her
- He’s not turned on by her
- Or he’s having an affair!
Usually this is far from the truth. Frequently, his ED problem is caused by focusing too much attention on her during foreplay so his brain doesn’t receive enough arousing signals!
If her man suffers from premature ejaculation this also, can switch off her libido. JUST when she’s starting to feel really turned on and connected, her male ejaculates without warning.
Many men with PE think they can get away with giving her lots of foreplay instead of quality intercourse time. Unfortunately, this results in constant disappointment. This is because most women consider the ultimate sexual connection to include full, penetrative intercourse with a fulfilling emotional connection.
This is why premature ejaculation can cause a lack of libido in women.When a woman herself is unable to achieve orgasm, sex is constantly disappointing. Even if she can orgasm during foreplay, it’s just not the same as orgasming during intercourse with her partner. Over a period of time, a woman who can’t orgasm may lose interest in sexual frequency.
Combine either of these problems, and a lack of libido in women will be a swiftly occurring event.
What Causes Lack of Libido in Men?When a man has a lack of libido, it’s usually connected with another sex problem such as premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction or being unable to ejaculate. While most men start with a healthy sexual appetite, these problems weigh down on a man, attacking his confidence and self-esteem.
Men can also be affected by their partner’s loss of libido. Most men assume that his partner’s lack of interest in sex is hormonal or related to health issues. If your partner is suddenly more interested in running the house and looking after children than attending to your sexual needs, you need to ascertain the reason behind this sudden lack of interest.
While it’s mentally draining looking after children (which most certainly can cause loss of libido) there may be other reasons for her reduced sex drive. Even if you don’t have problems with weak erections or early ejaculation, your sexual technique may not be fulfilling her.
Make sure you find out what she likes and doesn’t like, from kissing, to sexual position, to fantasies. Never assume a woman’s turn-ons – because every woman is different!
In SummaryRegardless of the sexual challenge for either partner, ongoing disappointment in sex, results in a lack of libido. If you suffer from early ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, or being unable to orgasm, then get those issues sorted so you can please your partner and yourself.
This enables you to be at ease with how you perform during sex without worrying about what’s going to happen next. It also enables you to feel connected so you can both enjoy your sex time, each knowing what to expect of each other. Getting rid of unresolved sex problems will usually cure a lack of libido.