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12 Hidden Factors Which Cause Male Sex Problems

Get ready to uncover the hidden truths behind male sex problems! While we're familiar with the usual suspects like diet and exercise when it comes to sexual difficulties, there's a whole world of hidden factors that can cause embarrassing issues like erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, and difficulties achieving orgasm. These factors, often overlooked and underestimated, are surprisingly common and go beyond the realm of medical conditions or the conventional wisdom of diet and exercise.

Buckle up as we delve into the untold causes of male sex problems, shining a light on the overlooked culprits that might be affecting your sexual experiences in ways you never imagined. It's time to uncover the truth and find solutions that can truly make a difference in restoring your sex life.

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What are the causes of male sex problems?

Ready to explore the underlying causes of male sex problems? In this enlightening journey, we'll uncover the factors that can affect your sexual experiences and intimate relationships. From the importance of lube to the impact of work stress, performance anxiety, and a distracted mind, we'll shine a light on the hidden influences that can undermine your sexual satisfaction.

We'll also delve into the effects of your partner's lack of interest, the role of sugar highs, the significance of physical fitness, and the impact of ineffective sexual techniques. And let's not forget the powerful role of confidence in the bedroom. Get ready to discover the keys to unlocking a fulfilling and vibrant sex life as we dive into the causes of male sex problems.

It's time to reclaim your sexual well-being and find the solutions that will transform your sexual experiences!

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Problem #1: Not using lube

A dry entry is a difficult entry! When you're already sensitive about whether or not your penis will work, not using lubrication is a recipe for disaster because you're going to worry about:

a) if it's going to stay hard while you put it in or 

b) if that rough entry is going to over stimulate you and make you ejaculate.

Lube allows for a smooth, effortless entry for you as well as a silky, sexy feeling for your partner. 

I recommend a good organic lube which doesn't sting and is free of nasty chemicals. Coconut oil is even more preferable, just use a tiny amount on the outside edge of the vagina as it can reduce awareness of sensitivity.

Problem #2: Not paying attention

I've said it many times – sex is like driving a car. A man cannot stay in control if he doesn't know how to keep his mind on the job and pay attention so he can reach his preferred destination.

Think of it this way. If a man speeds up without paying attention, what's going to happen? He may veer out of his lane, crash and make a big mess. Likewise, during sex, this is a common cause of premature ejaculation. And what happens if he is not paying attention and he slows down? You guessed it – he might lose his erection.

This is not rocket science but is a leading cause of many male sex problems.

Problem #3: Contemplating difficulties at work

This may seem obvious, but many men are guilty of it. Think for a moment of a pilot employed to fly a large commercial jet. As he is thinking about his upcoming work contract renewal, he punches in the autopilot coordinates... and enters the wrong numbers. Where do you think the plane might end up??

The problem here, is that the conscious mind can only focus on one subject at a time. Now relating this to the sexual act, if a man enters the wrong coordinates during sex it can cause him to stall - or crash and burn... or lose the interest of his partner (and not necessarily in that order.) 

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To put it simply, if a male is thinking about something else during sex, then it's impossible for him to correctly coordinate the sexual programs in his brain.

Problem #4: Worrying if your penis is going to work properly

Being distracted in any way, shape or form during sex is a man's greatest enemy. If he is worried about whether or not his penis is going to be working properly to ignite (then complete) the sexual act with his partner, his attention won't be focused in such a way that would guarantee his success!

Problem #5: Worrying about completing the act too quickly

We've touched on this before. Let me give you another way of looking at it. Don't think about a black car. What immediately comes to mind? If a man tries not to think about completing the act early, that's the picture he's holding in his mind - ejaculating early. Unfortunately this unwanted thought pattern can activate the ejaculation program in his brain, which can contribute to his fast demise during sex.

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Problem #6: Thinking about other adventures

This is unfortunately a common dilemma and frequently occurs when a man's partner is not fully engaged in the sexual act with him. It also occurs when he has an unrealized sexual fantasy which he wants to execute. This fantasy may or may not be related to his partner's lack of interest and frequently consumes his thoughts throughout the sexual act. Which leads us to the next factor...

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Problem #7: His partner's apparent lack of interest in sex

If a man feels like his partner isn't interested in participating in the sexual part of their relationship, it can set him up to experience a huge amount of performance anxiety in the few times that they invite any sexual activity with him. And if he's feeling anxious during sex... then his intensity is on the wrong subject matter which may cause him to lose his erection or lose control - or not be able to orgasm.

We all hear jokes about how often men want sex, but the reality is that many men need sex like a fish needs water. Not only detrimental to a man's sex life, a lack of sexual interest by a partner can threaten the very fabric which holds their relationship together.

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Problem #8: His partner contemplating her to-do list during sex

It's oh-so common, for a woman to contemplate her to-do list during sex. This is another common yet frustrating issue leading to female sex problems, such as challenges achieving orgasm. Most men are surprised to learn that women have as much difficulty staying focused during sex as they do.

When a man sees that vacant look in his partner's eyes during intercourse, then it may cause him to start worrying about her apparent lack of interest. This can cause him to lose his momentum - and lose his erection or lose control and ejaculate early.

Problem #9: Crashing and burning after a sugar high

To maintain sexual health and fitness, you're told to "eat healthy" however, healthy eating does not include ingesting copious amounts of sugar laden soft drinks, fruit juice or other sweet beverages. What goes up must come down - and a man really doesn't want to crash and burn during sex with his partner. This is why it's so important to fill up on foods to enhance sexual function.

If you want more energy to complete a great round of sex, stick to non-sweetened beverages throughout the day, such as water or sparkling water with a wedge of lemon or lime.

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Problem #10: Not having the physical fitness to complete the job

This can also relate to the foods and beverages a man is consuming. Sex requires a huge amount of energy! If a man is physically unfit, then he may struggle at times to maintain an even rhythm which is fulfilling for his partner. An unfit man is also more likely to huff, puff and then collapse on his partner before either of them is feeling fulfilled.

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Problem #11: An ineffective sexual technique

A man's sexual technique encompasses so much more than his sexual positioning, it's as much about how he engages and interacts with his partner throughout the entire sexual act.

Sex education doesn't teach males the exact procedure required to gain an erection, maintain it and stay in control of ejaculation. Great sex starts between the ears! Usually when a male has sex for the first time, he just hopes that everything will work out like it does in the movies but this is frequently not the case.

Problem #12: Lack of sexual confidence

Male sex problems often result from a lack of sexual confidence and affect his ability to stay hard and or in control of when he ejaculates. This is because he's having too many thoughts about whether or not he's going to get hard... whether his technique is fulfilling his partner... how long he's going to stay hard... if he's going to get too hard... whether or not his erection is going to make him blow early... or thoughts like: don't ejaculate, don't ejaculate, don't ejaculate! Or, please stay hard! Please stay hard! Please stay hard!

There are a myriad of other thoughts which can make a man lose all control over the sexual act. If you're a male experiencing sex problems experienced as early ejaculation, weak erections and being unable to orgasm, make sure you get checked out by a medical professional to ensure you don't have any underlying medical conditions which may be contributing to your problem - and invest in my help to get your other head sorted.

Revitalize your sex life!

Psychosexual Alignment offers a comprehensive approach to resolving male sex problems and revitalizing your sex life. By addressing the underlying causes of these issues, you can restore harmony and excitement in your intimate relationships.

Gain a deep understanding of the factors that contribute to your sexual experiences. Explore how work stress, performance anxiety, and a distracted mind can affect your sexual performance and confidence, and learn effective strategies to overcome these challenges.

Navigate the impact of a partner's lack of interest and discover the easiest path to reignite passion and desire. 

With Psychosexual Alignment you'll regain your confidence, address the root causes of male sex problems, and embark on a journey towards a happy and fulfilling sex life. 

Get ready to transform your intimate experiences. Optimize your sexual wellbeing and enjoy the pleasure and connection you deserve. 

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