The Best Premature Ejaculation Cure

Cure Premature Ejaculation and Restore Confidence

For a man experiencing premature ejaculation, there is nothing more important than restoring his sexual confidence. Unfortunately, his search for the best premature ejaculation cure can turn up some dubious results to say the least! Many of my customers found me because they were looking for a natural and permanent cure for premature ejaculation and this is what I will share with you in this post.

Professional health websites like mine aren't allowed to use the word "cure" to advertise their products and services. However, I want you to know that with the correct knowledge and technique, the majority of men can time their ejaculation and restore a happy and satisfying sex life.

As you know, premature ejaculation (PE) destroys your self-esteem by inhibiting your ability to perform normal sex, affects your self-confidence, and causes ongoing worry that you are unable to satisfy your partner in bed. This has a destructive effect on relationships as you and your partner struggle to connect and feel fulfilled.

If there's one thing you need to know, it's the importance of dealing with it now.

Do Drugs Cure Premature Ejaculation?

I've helped thousands of men overcome premature ejaculation without drugs and feel that drugs offer more of a placebo effect than an actual cure. If you take a drug for PE and stop worrying about the problem, then there's a chance that you will no longer experience early ejaculation. However, if one anxious thought sneaks in, then an onslaught of negative thoughts can spiral you down, take you off your game and drugs will no longer seem to work.

Premature ejaculation drugs, medicines, and numbing creams take away from the spontaneity of sex and often don't work due to anxiety and confusion as to what you should be focused on. This is the main problem!

I have coached several medical specialists in how to solve their own sex problems. They told me the medical profession have no idea how to permanently cure premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction. Doctors, urologists, psychologists and other therapists commonly prescribe erection enhancing drugs, numbing creams or antidepressants in an attempt to treat premature ejaculation even though it's a common belief among medical professionals that premature ejaculation cannot be cured.  

It's also demoralizing to have to rely on drugs, pills and creams just so you can last longer. 

Antidepressants are prescribed with the aim of numbing your awareness of feeling in your penis. Unfortunately, this can lead to erectile dysfunction when your brain doesn't receive enough awareness of sensation to maintain a hard erection!

Antidepressants may also lead to what my clients have described as a numbing of the mind, which tends to lead to more confusion and an inability to balance your sexual focus to stay in control.

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Premature Ejaculation then Erectile Dysfunction

Similar to the effects of antidepressants, it's common for premature ejaculation drugs and numbing creams to result in erectile dysfunction. Because PE drugs and medications don't educate you about the triggers which cause your early ejaculation problem, your issue continues occurring or can morph into two distinct problems - PE and ED. Then you have two problems to contend with!

Erection enhancing drugs improve blood flow which can increase awareness of sensitivity, so it's a mystery why erection drugs are prescribed for premature ejaculation. Drugs often create more problems than providing a long-term solution. 

If a sex therapist, counselor or other therapist is recommending drugs for your premature ejaculation problem, or you have been in therapy for months with no improvement, it indicates they may not have the insights required to solve your problem.

Ongoing premature ejaculation problems increase performance anxiety which may affect your ability to get a hard erection. This ongoing loop causes stress in your relationship and prevents you from feeling like a complete man. The related performance anxiety results in confusion and doubt, exactly the help you DON’T need to get rid of PE. 

Realistically, when you apply the correct thought and action sequence during sex which I can provide, your brain can respond with the correct responses - so you can enjoy being hard AND in control.

Just make sure you get checked out medically to ensure there aren't any underlying health issues.

Mental Distractions and Premature Ejaculation

There are many premature ejaculation treatments available and most don't provide a lasting cure. This is because any mental distractions which occur during sex can re-trigger a previously occurring problem. This puts you back in the worry cycle and trying not to think about ejaculating.

It's like trying not to think about a black car, the more you try not to think about a black car, the more it's image is embedded in your mind?

Whenever you are trying not to think about ejaculating, you are picturing ejaculation and this signals your brain that you require the ejaculation program. This isn't your fault, you're just missing some essential knowledge and technique, which can easily be corrected. 

To cure premature ejaculation, FIRST, you must understand which actions bring about the onset of the problem. Then you can delay ejaculation by dealing with the physical and mental distractions which are taking you off your game. 

In other words, you need to understand the main causes and how they are affecting you, then simply apply the correct actions to restore full control over your penis.

1. Correct Your Sexual Focus

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PE is usually (for the most part) a mental contamination problem. If you are overstimulating your brain with thoughts of sexual fantasies, how great it's going to feel when you're inside that hot, moist vagina and you're constantly thinking about your penis... I can guarantee you are going to lose control and ejaculate early.

This is because these thoughts cause you to become hyper-aware of the sensations in your penis. Therefore, ejaculation will occur within seconds or minutes of foreplay, penetration or intercourse.

However, it's not just these thoughts which contaminate your mind and cause you to ejaculate. You may be thinking about how arousing your partner is - or trying not to think about how arousing she is and how aroused you are feeling!

Either way, this kind of focus is mentally contaminating your ability to stay in control of ejaculation. To naturally cure premature ejaculation, you need to adjust your focus and actions as you progress from foreplay through to penetration and intercourse. 

See Also: The Best Premature Ejaculation Treatment

Erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation are actually similar problems but caused by different degrees and awareness of stimulation. Many men sense different amounts of stimulation and never reach the point of feeling "hard" and in control. This makes for a stressful sexual experience for all involved because of the uncertainty of the outcome!

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2. Remove Performance Anxiety

To completely cure premature ejaculation, you need to deal with the mental contamination problem. This includes performance anxiety which is taking you off your game.

Being constantly anxious and uncertain of the right mechanics which govern the sexual act leaves you with more questions than answers. When your mind is consistently analyzing what's happening with your penis, you can overstimulate your brain and ejaculate early.

The real problem here is that performance anxiety is constantly being brought on because your brain doesn’t have a plan to follow and you are confused as to what you should be focusing on during sex. This can result in ejaculating early or losing erection hardness.

Being able to control the sexual and emotional programs in your BRAIN is paramount. This can enable you to overcome your sexual anxiety as well as cure premature ejaculation. By balancing your sexual focus you are able to keep a hard erection, penetrate without any problems and control the timing of when you ejaculate.

Related Articles:
Why Performance Anxiety Makes You Lose Control In Bed
Best Exercises to Improve Sexual Function

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3. Upgrade to Correct Knowledge and Techniques

Premature ejaculation can happen at any time during a sexual act. Sometimes men ejaculate while giving or receiving foreplay, others ejaculation at penetration time, putting a condom on, during intercourse, or while changing their sexual position.

Although ejaculation may seem unexpected, how you focus your actions and attention throughout foreplay, penetration, and intercourse will determine when you ejaculate.

While it seems like the same problem, men ejaculate for different reasons throughout the sexual act. Experiencing premature ejaculation during intercourse is generally caused by a completely different reason than why he would ejaculate at penetration time. 

See also: The Best Sex Positions for PE and ED 

In order to cure premature ejaculation, you require a complete sexual strategy which encompasses the whole of the sexual act so you can be in control of yourself during foreplay, penetration, and intercourse. Each of these sexual "programs" have their own specific focal points and actions which enable you to stay hard and in control. 

Sex isn't just about putting your penis in and hoping for the best - that's a recipe for a big mess to clean up, both inside and outside the bedroom! It's important to deal with mental, emotional and physical distractions so they don't take you off your game.

The reason why so many men struggle to overcome their premature problem and continue to ejaculate early is because they don't understand how they are causing the problem:

You Cannot Cure Premature Ejaculation with Kegel's

Kegel exercises are great for strengthening the muscles which support your penis, but contracted at the wrong time can actually cause premature ejaculation. Flexing your penis results in increased blood flow to the penis and while this is good for enhancing the overall health of your penis, if you flex your penis when you are feeling overexcited, it can cause you to ejaculate. This is because the increase in blood flow leads to an increase in awareness of sensations.

Performance anxiety is experienced when you are uncertain of how to proceed sexually. However, with the correct procedure in place, confidence and ejaculation control can usually be restored. For example, sexual fantasies which currently make you lose control and ejaculate early when used in the right way can become an amazing tool for enhancing your sex life. 

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In Summary

My recommendation for the best premature ejaculation cure is based on the knowledge of how to synchronize your mind and your penis. This procedure enables you to be in control of when you ejaculate while maintaining a hard erection.

I've helped a lot of men and couples solve premature ejaculation and their associated problems and in my experience, incorrect sexual focus is the primary cause of PE. Yet with the correct information and the right strategies in place, you can remove anxiety and gain complete confidence in your ability to satisfy both yourself and your partner in bed. 

I have total confidence my unique insights will set you up emotionally and sexually for life. Read more about my online programs and schedule a complimentary strategy session to get started. With this correct knowledge and a bit of practice, you can choose the timing of when you ejaculate.


Psychosexual Relationship Specialist and published author, Jacqui Olliver has helped thousands of men, women and couples restore emotional and sexual satisfaction in their lives. Click here to check out her programs or to book a complimentary strategy session.

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  • Hi, I used to masturbate from my early age, probably more than a normal person should have. Now after being sexually involved with a girl for couple of times I found out that I have PE. Now if I totally stop masturbating will it help me getting rid of PE?

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    • Hi Junior, I feel for you, masturbation is such a normal thing to do. The problem is, men tend to do it for a fast release which can then cause problems because it trains your brain to trigger the ejaculation program faster than what is ideal for sex with a live partner! You need to understand how arousal works, and the specific thoughts and actions which are causing you to lose control and ejaculate early. Then, with a complete start to end strategy for sex, you can take control of your body and master sex. This is explained in detail in my thought-provoking, proven program for men.

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  • Hello, I suffer the same problem of PE and ED and I fear it will affect my sex life. How do I get into one of your session because I’m having problem of understanding the methods you’ve given above?? Please help.