Lack of Libido and Sexual Dysfunction

Sometimes a reduction in the frequency of sex from one partner, can set up performance anxiety in the other. As surprising as it may seem, men can become quite concerned that they will be unable to “perform” sexually after a period of abstinence when their partner doesn't want sex. This can then affect their ability to maintain a hard erection and stay in control of ejaculation.

This can be in the form of weak erections or being unable to stay in control of ejaculation. For a man who already has either of these problems they can cause a devastating blow to his self esteem and directly affect his libido as well as his desire for sex.

Your body needs cholesterol to produce sex hormones. Cholesterol is also the “fire truck” which puts out inflammation in your body. If your liver is not producing enough cholesterol to meet your body’s demands, your sexual programs can become affected. The only food sources of cholesterol comes from animals.

This is why so many vegetarians are affected by low libido, orgasm problems and erectile dysfunction problems – and if a man has an ongoing early ejaculation problem and requires many “attempts” to complete the sexual act, then many of his sex hormones will be wasted.

If you are a vegetarian and experience libido problems, eat plenty of butter or ghee (clarified butter) to help increase sexual function. Otherwise, organic red meat, fish and organic free-range eggs are other great sources of healthy cholesterol.

The majority of you know that high blood pressure can increase your risk of heart disease and heart attacks. Chances are that your sex life is going to become non-existent or completely ruined if you and your partner continue to ignore high blood pressure.

Many modern day packaged foods contain artificial ingredients which can directly affect your sexual health by causing inflammation and reducing your energy levels.

As well as avoiding packaged foods, I also recommend avoiding foods such as grains (bread, wraps, pasta, rice, cereal, biscuits, cakes) sugar and preservatives as these foods can also be directly responsible for causing unwanted health issues as well as weight gain – which can affect your partner’s libido!

Keep in mind that it’s not bread, pasta, rice or potatoes which makes food taste good – it’s the correct use of healthy salt, pepper, herbs and spices. Become an avid label reader before buying packaged foods so you’re not fooled by “Natural” marketing ploys.

Avoid most vegetable oils, particularly canola oil and trans fats which are contained in many fast foods as well as packaged foods. Coconut, macadamia and olive oils are all excellent cooking oil choices for improving sexual health and won’t detrimentally affect your libido.

Maca root is extremely helpful in restoring libido – I have a fabulous “super food” chocolate recipe which contains maca, cacao, nut butter and coconut oil with coconut syrup to sweeten. Do be careful with your consumption of coconut products and nut butters as they are very high in fat.

Other top foods to enhance sexual function include cinnamon, chocolate, garlic, oysters, hot peppers, vanilla, watermelon, cardamom and coriander seeds.

Make sure you include some healthy fats and protein in your diet and such as organic free-range eggs, avocados and nuts.

I highly recommend raw food recipes. Eating predominantly fruits and vegetables can dramatically increase energy as well as sexual health – and it’s one of the most delicious and satisfying ways of getting all the nutrients you need.

As human beings, we are frequently attracted to particular shapes and sizes. From this perspective alone, a partner’s gain in weight (or loss of weight) can cause libido issues and sex problems for either or both partners.

Women tend to be hyper aware and self conscious of how they look, even more so as they age. Any unwanted changes in her body including size, weight and skin elasticity can directly impact a woman's libido and overall desire for sex.

Sometimes it is life itself which becomes too busy and affects your libido. Work, family, relationship or financial issues? When you have issues which drain your mental reserves, your brain shuts down unnecessary programs – the first to go, being your sexual programs.

As you can see, there are several reasons why you (or your partner) may be experiencing a lack of libido. If you’re suffering from low libido or other sex problems it’s important to not only resolve the triggers contributing to your sex problem, but to have a strategy which encompasses the sexual act from start to finish. This is my area of expertise, so contact me now to get started.