Do You Ever Experience a Lack of Libido?
While lack of libido is sometimes related to hormonal imbalances, it’s important to understand these other factors which can lower libido and contribute to erectile dysfunction and other sexual dysfunction problems. Many of these factors which affect libido, are equally responsible for both male and female libido problems.
A Partner’s Lack of Interest in Sex
This can relate to one partner’s sexual problems such as erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation or being unable to orgasm. Other factors which turn off attraction and libido can include health issues, a terrible “A” game, a partner’s sexual technique which is not fulfilling – or a partner who wants sex too frequently.
It’s also common for a woman to lose her libido after the birth of her children, primarily due to her brain’s focus becoming centered on the needs of her children. I’ve treated MANY women suffering from this malady, all with excellent results – and with great relief to their partner.
Peri and post menopausal women often suffer from inner vaginal dryness which makes intercourse both painful and uncomfortable. One of the breakthrough techniques I have developed enables a woman to self lubricate her vagina from the inside out prior to engaging in sexual activity. It doesn’t matter if she forgets to initiate this sequence prior to sex as the technique immediately neutralizes vaginal pain at any time during intercourse or any sexual activity.
Your Partner's Lack of Libido Causing Problems?
Sometimes a reduction in the frequency of sex from one partner, can set up performance anxiety in the other. As surprising as it may seem, men can become quite concerned that they will be unable to “perform” sexually after a period of abstinence when their partner doesn't want sex. This can then affect their ability to stay hard and in control.
This can be in the form of weak erections or being unable to stay in control of ejaculation. For a man who already has either of these problems they can cause a devastating blow to his self esteem and directly affect his libido as well as his desire for sex.
Libido, Sex Hormones and Cholesterol
Your body needs cholesterol to produce sex hormones. Cholesterol is also the “fire truck” which puts out inflammation in your body. If your liver is not producing enough cholesterol to meet your body’s demands, your sexual programs can become affected. The only food sources of cholesterol comes from animals.
This is why so many vegetarians are affected by low libido, orgasm problems and erectile dysfunction problems – and if a man has an ongoing early ejaculation problem and requires many “attempts” to complete the sexual act, then many of his sex hormones will be wasted.
If you are a vegetarian and experience libido problems, eat plenty of butter or ghee (clarified butter) to help increase sexual function. Otherwise, organic red meat, fish and organic free-range eggs are other great sources of healthy cholesterol.
Foods Which Can Decrease Your Libido
Many modern day packaged foods contain artificial ingredients which can directly affect your sexual health by causing inflammation and reducing your energy levels. As well as avoiding packaged foods, I also recommend avoiding foods such as grains (bread, wraps, pasta, rice, cereal, biscuits, cakes) sugar and preservatives as these foods can also be directly responsible for causing unwanted health issues as well as weight gain – which can affect your partner’s libido!
Keep in mind that it’s not bread, pasta, rice or potatoes which makes food taste good – it’s the correct use of healthy salt, pepper, herbs and spices. Become an avid label reader before buying packaged foods so you’re not fooled by “Natural” marketing ploys.
Avoid most vegetable oils, particularly canola oil and transfats which are contained in many fast foods as well as packaged foods. Coconut, macadamia and olive oils are all excellent cooking oil choices for improving sexual health and won’t detrimentally affect your libido.
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Foods Which Can Increase Your Libido
Maca root is extremely helpful in restoring libido – I have a fabulous “super food” chocolate recipe which contains maca, cacao, nut butter and coconut oil with coconut syrup to sweeten.
Other libido enhancing foods include cinnamon, chocolate, garlic, oysters, hot peppers, vanilla, cardamom and coriander seeds.
Make sure you include plenty of healthy fats and protein in your diet and this includes eggs and organic free-range animal fat as well as fat from avocados and nuts.
I highly recommend raw food recipes. Eating the Paleo way can dramatically increase energy as well as sexual health – and it’s one of the most delicious and satisfying ways of eating.
Are You Physically Attracted to Your Partner?
As human beings, we are frequently attracted to particular shapes and sizes. From this perspective alone, a partner’s gain in weight (or loss of weight) can cause libido issues for either or both partners.
Women tend to be hyper aware and self conscious of how they look. Especially how they look as they age. Any changes in size, weight and skin elasticity can be directly reflected in her libido.
Work, Family, Financial and Relationship Issues
Sometimes it is life itself which becomes too busy and affects your libido. Work, family, relationship or financial issues? When you have issues which drain your mental reserves, your brain shuts down unnecessary programs – the first to go, being your sexual programs.
As you can see, there are several reasons why you (or your partner) may be experiencing a lack of libido. If you’re suffering from low libido or other sex problems it’s important to not only understand all the triggers contributing to your sex problem, but to have a complete strategy which encompasses the whole of the sexual act. Please share your libido concerns or experiences in the comments section below…
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I am 75, but kind of a phenomenon because I look much younger, never get sick, have a very active life, don’t identify with my age, have many younger friends, but I have lost my libido and cannot get or maintain an erection. Also, I have enlarged prostate for many years.
I live very healthfully, in the countryside, never processed foods, have been a vegetarian for years, but this year have been eating chicken, fish, and sometimes meat to lose weight. Because I have always weighed the same my whole life up till now, now my stomach is protruding and I can’t get rid of it, and don’t know why it should suddenly grow.
I live with a woman who has adapted well to the situation, but still I prefer to have a healthy sex life. I have no idea why or how this has happened to me, such a super healthy guy, no cigarettes or alcohol.
Hi Tom, it sounds like you’ve lived a healthy lifestyle however, I would suggest you get checked out medically to rule out any health conditions. Focusing on the wrong action at the wrong time (for example too much focus on your partner during foreplay) can prevent you from attaining or maintaining a hard erection which will in turn affect your libido and overall desire for sex.
There is a difference between being active and doing specific exercises to strengthen various parts of your body such as your stomach muscles and the muscles which support a hard erection.
This exercise will specifically strengthen your penis to get started. I explain how to balance your sexual focus throughout all sexual activity in my Hard and in Control program for men, which is recommended by doctors and works for men of all ages.
Dear Jacqui. I have a problem with premature ejaculation, apart from doing away with being worried about it isn’t there anything else that is natural that I can do to end this problem!!
Thank you.
Johnfisher
Hi John, until you resolve the anxiety problem you will continue to have the premature ejaculation problem. This is because trying not to think about a problem brings it to the front of your mind. You need to understand how you are over stimulating your brain sexually and how to bring it into what I call “the safety zone” so you can enter your partner without ejaculating soon after. PE is an easy problem for me to resolve, usually in one session.
Ejaculation occurs before the person wishes it, with minimal sexual stimulation. How is premature ejaculation diagnosed?
If you’re ejaculating within 5-15 minutes of intercourse, your partner will think you are ejaculating early. Simply worrying about premature ejaculation frequently causes this problem to occur, which is why you need a complete sexual strategy which includes how to deal with performance related anxiety.