Unresolved sex problems can lead to heart disease and other stress-related medical conditions. Unfortunately, due to shame and embarrassment, these issues are often kept hidden behind bedroom doors. In this post I'll explain the best approach to recommend sex therapy to your clients to help prevent ongoing stress and restore fulfillment in this important area of their lives.
One of the biggest precursors for mental health issues and heart disease in men is the occurrence of sexual "malfunctions" such as premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction and being unable to reach orgasm. These combined sexual function issues cause a huge amount of performance anxiety as well as mental, emotional and relationship stress which can eventually lead to a man questioning his reason for living.
Similar issues are experienced by women, with her problems usually being a low libido and problems reaching orgasm. These can also be the result of her partners’ own sexual dysfunction issue.
WebMD reports a staggering 43% of women and 31% of men reported some degree of difficulty with sexual function.
This study conducted with 7,000 women in Australia aged 18-39 years old indicated that 52% of women are unhappy or stressed about their sex life.
In this study the combined prevalence of minimal, moderate and complete impotence (also known as erectile dysfunction and ED) in men aged between 40 and 70 years was 52%.
It's not just older men, a report published by the Cleveland Clinic states that 40% of men under the age of 40 are affected by erectile dysfunction.
Additional studies have shown that most of the cases of impotence are due to psychological factors.
Statistics reported from a study on premature ejaculation (PE) prevalence and attitudes toward professional help-seeking indicate:
81.9% at a medical appointment had to initiate a conversation about PE
Only 9% of men with PE reported having consulted a physician for the condition
91.5% reported little or no improvement as a result of seeking treatment.
Social, emotional, and relationship factors were all found to have a significant impact on the prevalence of one or more sexual problems. Behavioral modification is an essential component in resolving sexual function issues.
The stress associated with these sex problems can cause a plethora of mental health as well as physical health issues so need to be dealt with in a timely manner. Constantly ruminating about these issues and contemplating future failure results in stress hormones constantly being triggered. This results in high cortisol levels which can lead to heart disease and other serious health issues.
Another common result of these problems is relationship breakdown which compounds a person’s feelings of diminished self-worth, isolation, stress and anxiety.
Research has shown that social relationships influence the health outcomes of adults. "Lack of social connection has a significant effect comparable to other leading indicators of risk for early death," says Julinanne Holt-Lunstad, PhD, a professor of psychology at Brigham Young University.
Feeling alone, Hold-Lunstad says, ranks up there with smoking, obesity, and physical inactivity in terms of its effects on your health. Across 148 studies with 308,849 participants, results indicated a 50% increased survival rate for participants with stronger social relationships. Therefore physicians, health professionals, trainers and educators should take social relationships as seriously as other risk factors that affect mortality and quality of life.
Solving emotional and sexual problems which lead to social isolation should now be considered a priority.
While sex education provides essential knowledge on sexual health and safe sex, it is sadly lacking in the essential knowledge required to initiate and complete sexual intercourse. This results in much confusion and guesswork involved in the act and is why so many people experience sexual failure.
For example, putting too much attention on his partner during foreplay can make a man lose his hard erection. This is due to his brain not receiving enough arousing signals. Random thoughts when nearing orgasm result in a woman not being able to reach orgasm.
A more advanced sex education is required to solve and prevent sexual function issues.
Regardless of gender, knowing how to correctly balance sexual focus throughout sexual activity is imperative.
I'm Jacqui Olliver, developer of the Great Sex No Problems methodology and published author who renews relationships by solving emotional and sexual issues for men, women and couples.
Most relationship counselors and sex therapists treat the symptoms by offering counselling, medications or different techniques than mine.
While they are very good at validating a person's feelings and providing helpful insights, in many cases they do not address the “root cause” of sex problems which is usually caused by using the wrong technique at the wrong time. This is what I correct. I teach my clients the actual focusing mechanism required to initiate the correct sexual programs in their brain.
I'm passionate about helping people develop new mindsets and strategies to overcome life challenges. Through my work, I developed the Emotional Reset Technique which resolves emotional triggers and prevents retriggering of stress hormones.
Recommended by leading medical specialists, the majority of my clients report immense improvement in solving their sexual function as well as emotional connection issues without drugs, after just one breakthrough consultation, or via my online pre-recorded programs.
My DIY pre-recorded programs enable clients to resolve these issues in a timely manner privately, with 100% confidentiality and only reach out if they have further questions.
“Your discussion on anxiety and not being sure of what to do or expect matched my feelings during sex. Your discussion on how first bad sexual experience can imprint resonated with me. I like that your approach seems to be a training guide. And I like the idea of a big picture to work through my premature ejaculation and anxiety issues.”
David (Surname withheld)*
“I’ve been to medical conferences all around the world, searching for an answer to my ED problem which started occurring after prostate surgery. No medical specialists are able to provide a permanent solution for erectile dysfunction – they have no idea how to solve it. Jacqui offered a completely different perspective – I am amazed at how well this technique works! Sometimes I lose focus and start losing the erection – but now I know how to immediately get it back!”
Dr Brian (Surname withheld)*
"I couldn’t believe it! After a lifetime of ejaculating within a minute (and for the past 5 years losing my erection hardness within one minute as well) I was able to stay HARD AND IN CONTROL for over 10 minutes – just 4 days after my session with Jacqui – and the next time I had sex! It’s blown my mind! Every male should have this education!"
Dr Sam (Surname withheld)*
Sex can be an awkward topic to bring up for a verbal discussion when you are unsure how to approach the subject. This is why these issues are often not mentioned by trusted professionals - who could so easily make a timely and welcome intervention for their clients!
Contemplating how a client or patient may react may trigger a stress response in you and prevent you from communicating clearly. However, with a clear format to follow and easy referral strategy, you will be sure you are helping your clients deal with potential issues in a timely manner so they can restore fulfilment in this important area of their life.
The best way to approach this topic is to take a direct approach and follow it up with some additional information.
To create a comfortable and open environment for your clients, it's essential to ask one key question toward the end of your consultation:
The ONE question you must ask:
"Are you experiencing any sex or intimacy challenges?"
This direct approach is the most effective way to encourage clients to share their concerns and initiate a discussion about their personal challenges. Additionally, it helps you, as a professional, understand the necessary steps to take next, whether it's ordering tests or making referrals and recommendations based on their response.
Following this pivotal question, consider providing your clients with valuable information for a referral, in conjunction with any other treatments you may be offering.
Follow with additional information for a referral:
"I recommend Jacqui Olliver to help resolve emotional and intimacy challenges, which may be contributing to ongoing stress."
This approach not only addresses your clients' concerns but also guides them toward a valuable resource for resolving these challenges. It's a comprehensive way to ensure your clients receive the support they need for their overall well-being.
When a person is feeling emotionally triggered, their prefrontal cortex can shut down in varying degrees. This affects their ability to think clearly as well as affecting their memory which can result in forgetting what they were told! So, it's important to follow up with an email referral.
By following the verbal recommendation with an email containing an actionable message for reference (see example below) you make it easy for your client or patient to follow through so they can get these additional challenges resolved in a timely manner.
Email subject: RE: Your Path to Restored Wellbeing
I'm reaching out to follow up on the verbal recommendation I recently shared regarding concerns around intimacy. Jacqui Olliver specializes in helping both men and women address emotional and sexual issues that could be contributing to ongoing stress in their lives.
My recommendation comes from a place of genuine concern for your mental, emotional, and physical health and wellbeing. It's crucial to address these matters, and Jacqui is well-equipped to assist.
As a gesture of support, Jacqui is offering a 20-minute complimentary strategy session to help my clients restore wellbeing in this essential aspect of their lives. You can book your session here: https://www.endtheproblem.com/complimentary
If you have any questions or if there's anything else I can assist you with, please don't hesitate to reach out.
As a medical, health or fitness professional, you are in the prime position of helping clients resolve their emotional and sexual challenges by providing an opening such as this which removes awkwardness. Many people who suffer from these problems do so in silence, so this simple approach is often appreciated and as a result can have a profoundly positive effect on their mental, emotional and physical wellbeing.
I'm happy to arrange a meeting with you via phone or video conference to discuss my unique treatment method and how I can help your clients or patients restore fulfillment in this important area of their life. Please click here to schedule your best time.
"I am successfully moving forward with my relationship both at a mental and sexual level. I have now managed to put the lovemaking tips you have given me... to create rapid arousal with wonderfully controlled intercourse."
- Dr Paul (Surname withheld),
"Jacqui is an intuitive counsellor... innovative and inventive enough to experiment far beyond the confines of academe, and emerge with a simple, clear counselling technology beyond mindfulness or... resilience training."
- Dr Graham Little, PhD
"Jacqui was an excellent guest... I loved her straightforward advice and knowledge... an excellent speaker on the topic of sex and sexual function and dysfunction. She really knows her stuff!"
- Barbara Santen,
Dating and Relationship Coach
Most of my customers get relief after their first session, and recover completely after finishing the program.
More testimonials here
"Your strategies are hands down the best so far from the other techniques out there. I'm very thankful to you."
- Hattan, USA*
"A good friend of mine worked with you and raves about the results he got from you."
- Casey, USA*
"This is the best program for PE and ED I have ever encountered!
As the founder of the Psychosexual Alignment methodology and published author, Jacqui has helped thousands of men and women easily resolve sex problems and restore emotional connection. Get your ultimate sex education and elevate intimacy to an exciting new level of engagement with Jacqui's Sex Mastery Programs for Men and Women
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