why recommend Sex Therapy?
Unresolved sex problems can lead to heart disease and other stress-related medical conditions. Unfortunately, due to the shame and embarrassment associated with talking about sex problems, these are often kept hidden behind bedroom doors. In this post I'll explain the best approach to recommend sex therapy to your clients to heal this important area of their lives.
Why It’s Important to Recommend Sex Therapy to Your Clients
One of the biggest precursors for mental health issues and heart disease in men is the occurrence of sexual "malfunctions" such as premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction and being unable to reach orgasm. These combined sexual function issues cause a huge amount of performance anxiety as well as mental, emotional and relationship stress which can eventually lead to a man questioning his reason for living.
Similar issues are experienced by women, with her problems usually being a low libido and problems reaching orgasm. These can also be the result of her partners’ own sexual dysfunction issue.
- WebMD reports a staggering 43% of women and 31% of men reported some degree of difficulty with sexual function.
- A recent study conducted with 7,000 women in Australia aged 18-39 years old indicated that 52% of women are unhappy or stressed about their sex life.
- In this study the combined prevalence of minimal, moderate and complete impotence (also known as erectile dysfunction and ED) in men aged between 40 and 70 years was 52%.
- It's not just older men, a report published by the Cleveland Clinic states that 40% of men under the age of 40 are affected by erectile dysfunction.
- Additional studies have shown that most of the cases of impotence are due to psychological factors.
Statistics reported from a study on premature ejaculation (PE) prevalence and attitudes toward professional help-seeking indicate:
Social, emotional, and relationship factors were all found to have a significant impact on the prevalence of one or more sexual problems.
Behavioural modification is an essential component in resolving sexual function issues.
How Sex Problems Affect Your Client’s Health and Wellbeing
The stress associated with these sex problems can cause a plethora of mental health as well as physical health issues so need to be dealt with in a timely manner. Constantly ruminating about these issues and contemplating future failure results in stress hormones constantly being triggered. This results in high cortisol levels which can lead to heart disease and other serious health issues.
Another common result of these problems is relationship breakdown which compounds a person’s feelings of diminished self-worth, isolation, stress and anxiety.
Research has shown that social relationships influence the health outcomes of adults. "Lack of social connection has a significant effect comparable to other leading indicators of risk for early death," says Julinanne Holt-Lunstad, PhD, a professor of psychology at Brigham Young University.
Feeling alone, Hold-Lunstad says, ranks up there with smoking, obesity, and physical inactivity in terms of its effects on your health. Across 148 studies with 308,849 participants, results indicated a 50% increased survival rate for participants with stronger social relationships. Therefore physicians, health professionals, trainers and educators should take social relationships as seriously as other risk factors that affect mortality and quality of life.
Solving emotional and sexual problems which lead to social isolation should now be considered a priority.
Safety and Sex
While sex education provides essential knowledge on sexual health and safe sex, it is sadly lacking in the essential knowledge required to initiate and complete sexual intercourse. This results in much confusion and guesswork involved in the act and is why so many people experience sexual failure.
For example, putting too much attention on his partner during foreplay will make a man lose his hard erection. Random thoughts when nearing orgasm will often result in a woman not being able to reach orgasm.
Regardless of gender, knowing how to correctly balance sexual focus throughout sexual activity is imperative.
My Unique Approach to Solving Sex Problems
I'm Jacqui Olliver, Psychosexual Relationship Specialist at End the Problem and published author who renews relationships by solving emotional and sexual issues for men, women and couples.
Most sex therapists and relationship therapists deal with the vague issues surrounding intimacy. They are very good at validating a person's feelings, providing helpful insights and offering counseling, medications or techniques to treat the symptoms which can all be helpful and beneficial.
Unfortunately, they do not address the “root cause” of sex problems which is caused by using the wrong technique at the wrong time. This is what I correct.
I'm passionate about helping people develop new mindsets and strategies to overcome life challenges. Through my work, I co-developed the Emotional Reset Technique™ which resolves emotional triggers and prevents retriggering of stress hormones. I teach my clients the actual thought/action mechanism required to initiate the correct sexual programs in their brain.
Recommended by leading medical specialists, the majority of my clients report solving their sexual function as well as emotional connection issues without drugs, either within 1-3 consultations or via my online pre-recorded programs.
My pre-recorded treatment options enable clients to resolve these issues in a timely manner privately, with 100% confidentiality and only reach out if they have further questions.
“Your discussion on anxiety and not being sure of what to do or expect matched my feelings during sex. Your discussion on how first bad sexual experience can imprint resonated with me. I like that your approach seems to be a training guide. And I like the idea of a big picture to work through my premature ejaculation and anxiety issues.”
Feedback from Medical Professionals
“I’ve been to medical conferences all around the world, searching for an answer to my ED problem which started occurring after prostate surgery. No medical specialists are able to provide a permanent solution for erectile dysfunction – they have no idea how to solve it.
Jacqui offered a completely different perspective – I am amazed at how well this technique works! Sometimes I lose focus and start losing the erection – but now I know how to immediately get it back!”
Dr Brian (surname withheld)
Medical Specialist, Erectile Dysfunction after Prostate Surgery
"You are really amazing. Your views about human psychology and emotions will one day, change whole of medicine.
You have made a programme which is priceless and money can't buy this. Your service to humanity is incredible.
You are inventor of a technology which can change life. Your research is priceless. You are a great scientist and an incredible human being.
I always recommend your website to my patients."
Dr Vijay Raghavan
Diabetes and Metabolic Specialist for Incurable Diseases
"I couldn’t believe it! After a lifetime of ejaculating within a minute (and for the past 5 years losing my erection hardness within one minute as well) I was able to stay HARD AND IN CONTROL for over 10 minutes – just 4 days after my session with Jacqui – and the next time I had sex! It’s blown my mind! Every male should have this education!"
Dr Sam (surname withheld)
Medical Specialist, Premature Ejaculation & Erectile Dysfunction
I'm totally confident my unique insights will set your clients up emotionally and sexually for life.
How to Refer Your Clients to Solve Their Sex Problems
Sex can be an awkward topic to bring up for a verbal discussion when you are unsure how to approach the subject. This is why these issues are often not mentioned by trusted professionals - who could so easily make a timely and welcome intervention for their clients!
Contemplating how a client or patient may react may trigger a stress response in you and prevent you from communicating clearly. However, with a clear format to follow and easy referral strategy, you will be sure you are helping your clients deal with potential issues in a timely manner so they can restore fulfilment in this important area of their life.
How to Approach the Topic of Sexual Intimacy
The best way to approach this topic is to take a direct approach and follow it up with some additional information. Asking this ONE question toward the end of their consultation with you will ensure they are feeling more at ease and more likely to divulge any concerns:
The ONE question you must ask:
“Are you experiencing any intimacy challenges?”
This direct approach is by far the most effective way to help clients get started on resolving any personal challenges they may be facing. It also enables you to discern what you need to do as a professional: order tests or make further referrals or recommendations depending on how they answer.
Next, is to provide the client with additional information for a referral (in conjunction with any other treatment you may be offering):
Follow with additional information for a referral:
“I recommend Jacqui Olliver at End the Problem to help resolve emotional and intimacy challenges which may be contributing to ongoing stress.”
Follow Up with an Email Referral
When a person is feeling emotionally triggered, their prefrontal cortex can shut down in varying degrees. This affects their ability to think clearly as well as affecting their memory which can result in forgetting what they were told!
By following the verbal recommendation with an email containing an actionable message for reference (see example below) you are providing the necessary information to resolve their issue in a timely manner.
Email subject: RE: Recommendation
Following up with the verbal recommendation I made, Jacqui Olliver, Psychosexual Relationship Specialist at End The Problem helps to solve emotional and sexual issues which may be contributing to ongoing stress in your life.
It’s important to resolve these issues to support your mental, emotional and physical health and wellbeing.
Jacqui is kindly providing a 20-minute complimentary strategy session to assist my clients in restoring wellbeing in this important arena of their lives: https://www.endtheproblem.com/complimentary/
Please let me know if there is anything else I can help you with.
As a medical, health or fitness professional, you are in the prime position of helping clients resolve their emotional and sexual challenges by providing an opening such as this which removes awkwardness. Many people who suffer from these problems do so in silence, so this simple approach is much appreciated and as a result can have a profoundly positive effect on their mental, emotional and physical wellbeing.
I'm happy to arrange a meeting with you via phone or Skype to discuss my unique treatment method and how I can help your clients or patients restore fulfillment in this important area of their life. Please click here to schedule your best time.